What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 65
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Asia
What country and/or city do you live in? Indonesia
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Retired
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Basically still a honey guy but parts don’t always accommodate my thoughts.
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 40 to 50 I guess
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
Now Keeping More Than My House
How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 months
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? A devout employee comes to my rescue
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a year
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I have a 33 year old single mother of one that has been my housekeeper for 10 months prior. She is an Indonesian, petite, short, nice body, and not gorgeous at all. Pleasant to look at but is very nice and always took good care of my house. Before a month ago, she was my employee and basically still is.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Being a single retired Westerner that lived alone in Indonesia on a retirement visa, it was a requirement to hire a housekeeper among many other requirements. I had gone through a few housekeepers that didn’t work out for one reason or another before I hired this one. Actually she was suggested to me by her mother who gave me my monthly traditional massage. I had told her that I was again looking for a housekeeper. I hired her daughter and she did a great job right from the beginning. I never had any sexual desires towards any employee.
One day as I was sitting just kind of staring off into space a heard a small voice ask, what is wrong Mr.? I looked towards the voice and it was my housekeeper. She asked, “is Mr. OK?” I answered that I was and just deep in thought. “Mr. sure he is OK?” she asked again. I said yes. Then she surprised me. “Mr. you have no girlfriend?” “No,” I replied. “Why Mr.?” she asked. I told her I just wasn’t looking for one since they all seem to just want to spend your money. She came right out and asked me if I was having problems with sex Ah, that wasn’t expected but still, I told her no more than anyone my age. “Mr. Needs a girls, ya Mr.?” she blurted out. I told her yes, it would be nice and it would make me feel better I guess. I confided that I am lonely sometimes.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? She came over and stood next to the chair I was sitting in. Broom in hand even. “Mr.,” she asked, “do you need a girl, for, you know?” “What?” I asked, thinking I already knew. “You know, for sex,” she said. “Why?” I asked, “do you know someone?” “I do it, Mr.” she said, “I do it for you.” Well, that came as a shocker. This was a little religious Muslim lady with a son that works hard to make sure he was going to be the first in her family to go to high school. Knowing what I knew for Indonesian girls and older Westerners, I asked how much. Right away she replied, “No Mr., no money. I just do for you to make you happy.” I thought and told her that would be really nice.
She came around in front of me, set her broom against a side table, got on her knees and reached up the side of my loose shorts I wear around the house. She took hold of my cock and slipped it to the side and started playing around with it until it was hard. She lowered her head over it and then took it in. It was warm, soft, wet and moved up and down smoothly over it. A slight sucking could be felt and then a hand cupping my balls. All I could do is sit and take it all in. It felt so good. She then tightened her lips more and started tickling my balls. I wasn’t going to hold back and let it go. She sucked out while using a hand to get every bit out of me. When I calmed down, she casually got up and went in the bathroom to spit. She came back with a warm wet hand towel and delicately cleaned me up. Needless to say, I really did need that. She actually asked if I wanted to immediately do it again. I had to laugh and tell her there was no way I could do that. I did feel some nice tingling down there when she cleaned me up and how I wished I could do it again. That just wasn’t reality. She asked if I felt better. I assured her I did. “Mr. tell me when he wants again, OK,” she told me. “OK” came right out of my mouth.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? No
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? It was nice that she seemed so sincere in wanting to just make me happy. I never felt any guilt with her basically being an employee. Here they become somewhat of the extended family of the employer. I had never expected this to happen to begin with and I really didn’t feel right about asking her for another round. I didn’t have to, she brought it up a week later and offered the same. I asked what I could do for her and she told me nothing, just be nice like you are. Again she slipped over in front of me and started the same as before. This time I reached down and slipped my hand into her shirt. I was expecting her to stop my hand but she didn’t. I leaned forward and she stopped touching me. I was till feeling her when she unbuttoned her shirt and slipped it off. I undid her bra exposing her perky youthful breast with large hard nipples. I caressed and looked at them while she went back to doing me. Again, it was incredible. Cleaned me up the same way and then went back to her duties. She was slipping her bra back on as she walked across the room and I got an evil thought of asking her to work in the nude. Then decided that I was probably the one that couldn’t handle that. It has been repeated two more weeks for a total of 4 times now. Each time I asked for a little more clothes removed and she has obliged. Last week she was fully nude and looking like the most desirable Woman on Earth. I mentioned that she maybe thinks I will marry her now. She told me no, she hoped not because she is not going to remarry. Damn, an angle I thought.
I tried to touch her vagina but she stopped me. I want to fuck her but, she may not be up for that so I will just let her take the lead because I sure don’t want this to end.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, To feel better about myself, To cheer myself up, I was feeling lonely
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Not at all
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Her generosity towards another
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Nothing
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It changed the way I looked at this young Woman.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Just that she makes me feel pretty damn good and much better that I did prior to all this. Added a bit more spring in my step.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I have never had any problems with people having casual sex. People have needs. It’s human nature.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s interesting.
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