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What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 44
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? New York City
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Medicine
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (open)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? We’re swingers. Ethnically non-monogamous.
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 50
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? No

NYE Swinger Party

How long ago did this hookup happen? Few Days Ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (open)

How would you best classify this hookup? Group sex

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I personally had sex with 7 women, 5 of them were new partners. It was a mix of different body types from runway models to suburban housewives. All generally fit, but not hardbodies.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We’re in a circle of similar lifestyle friends, and several times a month we get together with one or more couples for drinks and dessert. However, in our circle of friends, some of us are more active in the lifestyle than others. One such couple, we call them “connectors” (see Malcolm Gladwell), hosts house parties from time to time. NYE is one of those occasions. This couple has already met and played with all the couples they invite, so for them, it is a way to introduce their wider circle of friends. For us, they essentially do the heavy lifting of meeting new couples – are they crazy, etc… so we enjoy these parties as a way to meet new couples whom we might not otherwise have the time to mee

The party was at their brownstone… It started off as a regular NYE party, most people in tux or gown, chit chat with friends, some social ice-breaker games to meet new people. Finger food, bar, music, TV on in the background.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Around 9 pm, the pairing off started and we were one of the first couples to go upstairs with two other couples. These were couples that we already knew well, and it was a hot six-some to start the evening. While my wife and I try to stay together, at least in the same room, at house parties that can be difficult. It entirely depends on who finishes when, and what pairings are made. Over the course of the evening, we touched based several times between “breaks”… As a woman, my wife can recycle much faster than I can, so she is often invited back upstairs while I am having a drink. Consequently, she ended up fucking 15 guys over the evening, not counting fem-fem pairing.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? It was great, we made some new friends that we will most definitely see again, at least couple-to-couple.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant, IUD (Intrauterine device)

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Making new friends

How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Everyone had a great time.

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? With children, our weekends out are limited. House parties, curated by friends of ours, are a great way to meet new couples.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Alas, it had to end. Babysitters.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? We very much view sex differently than love. We have a few regular partners, who, perhaps we might even love, we certainly have feelings for, but it is in no way a replacement for spousal love and the shared life we have together. Sex is like wine; it’s nice to try different varietals.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project?  Very interesting. In particular, I’m interested in the number of lovers people have had… We keep count of how many people we have been with. The Mrs. has had way more lovers than me, we’re seeing if she can eventually get to 100.

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