by Jane Doe
What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 22
What’s your race/ethnicity? Southeast Asian
What continent do you live on? Asia
What country and/or city do you live in? India
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (currently pursuing)
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Hindu
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 6
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None
Off the line
How long ago did this hookup happen? 1 week ago
What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (monogamous)
How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Every day in the cafeteria, I could not take my eyes off him. Each day, my attraction for him grew. I did not know his name or which department he works for..All we both did for 2 months is stare at each other…maybe even eye-fuck. He was one of the most mature guys, shy, quiet, and mysterious. I accidentally found him on FB and then text him…we’ve never looked back since then.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We began texting each other. I initiated the texting since I found his number. We both knew what we were looking for. There was no planning. Things just fell in place…
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? This hookup was one of the best I’ve had. Maybe because the desire in both of us for each other had been there since 2-3 odd months. We did everything except anal sex. He is a very good lover. It ended pretty well. We could have fucked for more, but our time was a constrained… We spoke of many things: our childhood, our relationships, career growth, aspirations, and dreams! It ended on a good note which could be carried forward.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close
Did your partner have an orgasm? No
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Felt nothing about it. Just satisfied with how things were going. I still feel the same from him. On a physical note. I feel safe and secure. I know he wouldn’t harm me. We are friends who talk share things and fuck each other…
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal, Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have, To feel better about myself, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident, Power / Dominance, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one!
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I was satisfied…did not have sex..and then bang! such amazing fuck for the first time
He introduced me to things I was not aware of!
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Cannot recollect… maybe time being a constraining factor…
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes it has changed. I have seen that it is easier to compartmentalize such things
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Probably the best first sex ever! We were at it for around an hour or so
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s great. Sex psychology is important to understand the nuances of behavior..social and otherwise.
Wish you all the luck!
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