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What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 24
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Seattle
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Childcare
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Queer lady, femme
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 13-15
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

OkCupid Couple

How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 months

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? Group sex

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? This involved a 28 year old woman and her 34 year old male partner. I met her on OkCupid just looking for women to date/hook up with. She was looking for a sort of lesbian cuckold situation, where she and I hooked up and only allowed him to watch, at least initially.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? She messaged me and I debated responding but ultimately did. We decided to meet for drinks then play at their apartment. The plan was she and I would play together and ignore him, he would only be allowed to please himself. If she decided, he could come over and interact with her however not with me as that was not what I was looking for.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We had a drink then went to their place. She fixed me another drink then we cuddled and kissed on the bed before undressing each other. He sat in a chair in the corner stroking himself quietly. I gave her oral from behind and fingered both her holes with a glove (safety first 😉 ) She came quickly and I gave her more oral while we 69’d. After we had both come again, she restrained my ankles and wrists and used a dildo and hitachi simultaneously on me. I had several smaller orgasms while he came over and fucked her from behind (her moaning was incredible). When I could tell she was getting close I begged her to finger my ass and came explosively one more time. He finished inside her and we cleaned up and relaxed with some herbal refreshments before I took off.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I’ve hooked up with them once more since (we went to a concert then had a repeat of the first time, though they both performed oral on me that time).

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, IUD (Intrauterine device), Discussed STI testing history, Gloves

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting, Submission / Relinquishing power, Making new friends

How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high

What substances did you consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish

How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told my therapist (who is kink-friendly) and she and I agree I used good judgment and treated myself. I also told a friend who knows I’m a bit kinky but she doesn’t know the details–it might be TMI for her.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Being restrained by a woman–I love bondage but I rarely trust men enough to cum while restrained. It’s a lot easier with women, especially if it’s someone I don’t know well.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I would have preferred if her hubby had just kept stroking instead of joining, though I did consent to this. That said, it was worth it to hear the way she moaned while he fucked her.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Not really, honestly. I’ve been with couples before but I generally prefer to keep it 1:1 due to drama.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I definitely try to fight shame/stigma by talking more about casual sex. I’m all for it, along with enthusiastic consent and widely available safer sex options.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I think it’s an awesome place to share experience, learn, heal, explore, etc.

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!