What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 20
What’s your race/ethnicity? Middle Eastern
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? France
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Artist
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (open)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? romantic hook-up aficionado
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? Between 10 and 20
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
OkCupid In Paris
How long ago did this hookup happen? A few months ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a month
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was surprisingly very, very similar to my current boyfriend. Long, straight, black hair. Shy and smiling. But he was stronger than my boyfriend. Bigger muscles. The first time we met, after chatting for a while on OkCupid. Felt scared about meeting him, cause a few days before I met another guy from OkCupid who turned out to be the worst hookup of my life.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We met in the street, in Paris, in front of McDonald’s. It was dark, but lots of people outside. March. I was wearing my hottest dress, coat, and heels.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I brought him to my hotel, both smiling. He was shy, talked a bit. I looked out the window, he sat on my bed, talking about his music business. Silence. I look at him, there’s fire in our eyes. I sit on him and kiss him gently. Then we start having sex. He touches me, he fucks me, he holds me tight, strong, I like it. I suck his dick, but I don’t like it. Tastes weird, like fake lemon. He eats me “just enough” to even out the bit of sucking I did. Overall felt good, in control while being controlled. That’s what I’m after. He behaved like a good boy, being bad when wanted to. Again, what I’m after. After he orgasmed, we smoked a cigarette at the window, like a real Parisian couple (I don’t smoke). Talked about music.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? He went to a party, I went to sleep. Went the next day to work. Felt good. Like a grown woman. Like I have a delicious secret. No expectations, let go of any hopes and was waiting to see what will happen. We saw each other once more since was even nicer. Intense. Almost like we’re already in love. But he has a monogamous girlfriend now.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident, I was feeling lonely, Power / Dominance, Making new friends, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My boyfriend and my ex, a while after. They felt weird but weren’t annoying about it. Also, they asked, so…
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Mixed (Some positive, some negative)
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How easy and flowing it was.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Why is smoking always involved? Also, you could see that it’s not a person I could actually connect to on the long term.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Made me feel a bit better about it all.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Cutie
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Casual sex is an important part of human relationships. In fact, I don’t think it’s casual at all. I think it’s a very intense and deep experience, which makes it impossible to be casual. I’d like to see it reclaim its importance in our society and wash off the taboo.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I like it, for now. Although too much stories from 50-60 years old males, makes me feel uncomfortable.
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