by Slow Coach

Gender: M
Age: 62
Race/ethnicity: Mainly European
Current location: Asia
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
Occupation: Teacher
Relationship status: Married
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexual orientation/sexuality better/best? Repressed
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 12
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? none

Old Virgin

How long ago did this hookup happen? 35 years ago

How would you best classify this hookup? one nighter

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She was quite good looking and separated with a young spina bifida daughter.
Her titties were quite full and had a tendency to flop to one side when she was lying down. Average height and weight and in her late 20’s. At that time, I was 27 years old, slim and average height.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? There was no planning involved and I can not remember who suggested it.
It was a spontaneous act.
I first meet her at work where I was employed on a temporary basis. I quite fancied her. A xmas party was coming up and I asked her to go with me. I remember holding hands and kissing her at the party. Then we went back to her place. She lived alone with her daughter.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? There was vaginal sex in the missionary position. I did not disclose the fact that I was a virgin. I wasn’t quite sure how to lie on top of her as I didn’t want to crush her.  In retrospect my performance was awkward and  bumbling.  Perhaps that is the reason she lost interest in me soon afterwards. 
However I also do recall with satisfaction that my cock was strong and firm.
I could have poked her till the cows came home. 
I didn’t sleep over.

Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? I did not come and neither did she.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? None that I can recall. We didn’t discuss STIs.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? At the time, I was feeling very anxious about being a virgin at the age of 27. 
So I really wanted to lose my virginity.  I hadn’t had a girlfriend before.

In hind sight I should have started sex in my late teens and not waste a decade. 
Perhaps I didn’t because my upbringing was abnormal. There was no love between my parents. Nor any love between my father and me. He loved my sister who incidentally had a mental breakdown when she was 17 years old. Also at the time I was a catholic which didn’t help matters.  I remember going to confession as a young teenager and asking for forgiveness for masturbation.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? A few beers only.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After the hook up, she quickly lost interest in me. I felt sad at the time.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Consensual  on both counts.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? No.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The best thing was kissing, touching, and having sex with a beautiful woman.

Even though my technique was dreadful, I still found it an awesome experience.

Sex is good for the body and mind. I think people should try to have as many partners as possible.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup or anything else? I think that casual sex (with the right person can engender confidence) and help a person develop a more rounded personality. It’s good for mental health. It’s a delight, sexy and good. But be careful.

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