What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 41
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Business
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 20
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 2
Older Woman in NOLA
How long ago did this hookup happen? 16 years
What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (monogamous)
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I was in New Orleans for a business function and was hanging out at a hotel bar when I saw an attractive woman in her 40s sitting alone. She was petite with nice medium size breasts. I approached her and started a conversation. After a while she asked if I wanted to come up to her room but told me she wasn’t going to have sex with me.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We went to her room and immediately started making out on the bed.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? She took off her clothes except for her panties and started sucking my dick. I’m not all that into blowjobs so after a little while I tried to go down on her but she wouldn’t let me. At this point a began to feel bad about cheating on my gf. I told her that I had a gf and felt bad. She reassured me that I didn’t have anything to feel bad about and asked me if I would cuddle with her. I was freaked out but did for a couple of minutes. Then before leaving she turned on her light and asked if she was pretty. I told her yes and left.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Not at all
Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close
Did your partner have an orgasm? No
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt really bad because of cheating and thought the woman might have had some emotional issues.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, To feel better about myself
How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Very much
Why do you regret this hookup? I cheated and I thought the woman had problems. Was not at all satisfying.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The anticipation, and it was hot for a little while.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The guilt
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Was the first time I cheated, made me feel bad about myself.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Not at all positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Fairly negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? No problems with casual sex in the abstract.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Interesting
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