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What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 29
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Chicago
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Financial Coach
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (open)
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 29
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 1

On Call Solider

How long ago did this hookup happen? Tonight

What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (open)

How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I have two partners. One partner is my dominant and my wife. She’s tall, beautiful, and has gorgeous brown eyes. The second partner was Hispanic, 6 feet tall, and physically cut. He’s a solider and he definitely solutes. My wife summoned him through Fetlife to come have sex with me while I went down on her. She showed me a few photos of guys who were interested and I picked one I thought was hot. I hadn’t met him before he entered our hotel room.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? My wife arranged the hookup and booked a hotel not far from our house. She told the guy to meet us at our hotel and gave him our room number. He walked into the room while I was going down on my wife and my ass was up in the air. He asked, “May I go in?” I took a breath and said, “Yes.”

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I had a butt plug in, a vibrator on my clit and my mouth was on my wife’s clit as he entered me. It immediately felt good as he pounded into me and I tasted my wife’s pussy. I tried to focus as hard as I could. My wife told me that I had to squeeze her hand and get her permission before I came. It was so hard to do that as he was shoving into me and pushing me against her. I squeezed my wife and she gave me permission to come. I came so hard after she told me I could. He checked his condom at one point to make sure it was still on. He moaned and said, “Fuck yes.” My wife only enjoyed me down on her for a little bit. She said, “You were filled with anticipation, damn girl! You were eating some serious pussy.” But after some of his thrusting, I was shoved off of her clit and she just enjoyed the view for a minute. At one point, my wife pulled me up to kiss her and told him to keep going. He had to replace the condom so we continued to kiss while he got a new condom. When he came back, my wife and I continued to make out. I came again and I told her that she could tell the guy to come whenever she wanted. She said, “You can come if you want.” He asked, “Are you sure?” She said, “Yeah, go ahead.” He said, “Good. ‘Cause I’m going to come really hard.” He thrust quickly into me and I came again just before he did. He put on his clothes and I told him that he was hot and we talked for a few minutes and he left.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? My wife and I cuddled. We went home shortly after. We had fun and wouldn’t mind hanging out with him again. Very sweet and obedient man.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, IUD (Intrauterine device), Discussed STI testing history

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting, Submission / Relinquishing power, Didn’t want to disappoint my partner, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it

How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high

What substances did you consume? Marijuana, hashish

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? A little bit

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My wife, and no one else. My wife was present and enjoyed the experience.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The man was respectful and sweet and obedient. My wife is wonderful and takes very good care of me by finding me a nice man to fuck me while I go down on her.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The soldier man shoved me too much and stopped me from pleasuring my wife.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Not at all. This was fun. Casual sex should happen more.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Casual sex should be open. People have urges and they are natural and in reality, my wife and I just fulfilled a 28-year-old man’s dream.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s awesome. Keep it up!

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