by Chris

Gender: Female
Age: 52
Race/ethnicity: White
Location: Washington, DC
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
Occupation: Clergy
Religious affiliation: Not christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

One Good Fuck

How long ago did this hookup happen? 10 months

How would you best classify this hookup? One night stand

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I met this man online on a dating site and we’d met once for drinks and a kiss. Lots of texting, sexting, he sent pix of himself…unclothed. I finally divulged that I have the herpes virus and have had for 30 years so I knew that we would not be able to have sex. After much back and forth over weeks of email and texts, we decided to meet for sex.

He’s 6 years older than me, shaven head, nice and well kept body…sexy man. I liked him very much, would have wanted to date him had it not been for the virus thing.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? He invited me to his place…on a weeknight. For sex…..I went, had a glass of wine, he had a drink….we chatted…the TV was on….

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We were chatty and flirty…it was fun and light and fun. We kissed briefly..all of this in his living room on his black couch….I performed oral sex on him…..which he very much enjoyed…eventually I ended up on my hands and knees and we had very very vigorous doggy style sex…very hard….we both really were into it. After it was all over I went to the bathroom and he went to the kitchen….we both discovered lots of blood…not a period but lots of blood……I was embarrassed….he did not seem to care….he cleaned up…we sat and chatted for a good while….he with a towel wrapped around him, me dressed. It was great fun and he was a good lover.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? No precautions

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? Wanted to have sex with him!

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? One drink each

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt good about it. He sent a text the next day saying that that was great sex…that he loved it… I was embarrassed about the blood. I was at the doctor soon there after and she said it was due to menopause and thinning of vaginal wall..the “vigor” of the sex caused the bleeding. I texted him and let him know as we both were wondering.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes for both

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The good sex, the fun time with him

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

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