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What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 44
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
What’s your occupation? IT Professional
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (open)
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 20+
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? two

One hour stand

How long ago did this hookup happen? 13 years ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Jennifer was in her mid 20s, a personal trainer, short blonde hair, blue eyes, and an athletic build… really lean. I met her at a bar a block from my apartment, moments after an argument she had with her boyfriend.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We had a drink, she asked if I lived nearby and 20 minutes later we were walking along the beach to my place.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We walked into my apartment, greeted by my dog who was very excited to see a new person, made all of 30 seconds of awkward small talk, then all over each other. she pulled my shirt off, I pulled her’s off, we made our way to the sofa. After a quick “have you been std tested? yes, me too,” our pants were off. We kissed for a minute then she turned around, pulling my hands to her breasts. I kissed her neck, shoulders (which were pretty damn muscular), and down her back. When I got to her ass, she bent over and I got a view of what may be the hairiest pussy I’ve ever seen in my life. After a minute of me giving her oral, she said “do me daddy.” Condom on, dick in, and she wanted to be absolutely slammed. As I’m pushing in, she’s SLAMMING against me… enough that it wasn’t terribly comfortable, and I had this total fear of my dick breaking… all the while she’s calling me daddy… which at this point I realized it did nothing for me. She let out a sharp moan, shook a bit, and fell forward onto the sofa. I was expecting to continue, but she said she needed to get back. She gave me a kiss, we exchanged numbers as she quickly dressed, then she was out the door… back 30 seconds later asking for directions back to the bar.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat

Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I offered to walk her to the bar, but she said her boyfriend was probably looking for her and would be mad. He might be with some friends and it wouldn’t be a good scene. Oh. Good times.
I was fun for a couple minutes, but over way too fast.

She called me the following weekend to see if I wanted to get together, but I was out of town. I got a few 2AM calls over the following weeks, but we never met up again.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), It was easy / convenient

How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? I don’t know

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told a friend/neighbor, because she heard everything. She just said “wow, that was fast”.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Neutral

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The excitement of just meeting her 20 minutes earlier, and being inside her.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? It ended before I came.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Somewhat negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I completely blew a chance with a very cool, very attractive lady at the bar because I so enthusiastically left with this girl. I later heard this other lady had been totally into me until that moment I left.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Casual sex mostly happened when I was single and lonely, or during a string of “I’m going to have sex with *everyone*” hookups after a divorce.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s awesome.

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!