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What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 48
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? professor
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 30
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

One Night of Bliss

How long ago did this hookup happen? once

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? My partner was a woman in her late forties. She had thin long legs and was in very good shape for her age. She also had short black hair, glasses, and a country-girl style. I danced with her at a VFW in Georgia. I thought that she was very attractive, a terrific dancer, and easy to talk to.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We intended to have a small dinner and then a bath then sex. But, it never happened but a rain check did eventually happen. I instigated it.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? First, we took a bath, then a shower while listening to music in the background. We had a few drinks but we were not drunk. We touched each other in the shower, of course…we touched each other everywhere. She was stroking me, and I was fingering her. I caressed her breasts and licked her beautiful nipples.

Then, we had sex a few times later on in the evening while in bed. She was very accepting and wanted to try everything. She was magnificent, and yes, she was a very good lover. I couldn’t get enough of her. The next day over breakfast, we exchanged small and kind of silly conversation. Then I drove her home.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt ok the next day. I still liked her but I also knew that we were very different people in what we do for a living etc.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, To feel better about myself.

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? I don’t know

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Friend on the phone. This person is not an angel and they have done it themselves.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The anticipation of it, then finally having a great evening.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I guess I realize how DIFFERENT we are.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No, not really

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup?  As we age I think we feel less desirable especially if we are still single. It reaffirms that you are still somewhat sexy. Let’s face it, no guy dreams of being a 400 lb guy living with his parents wearing a stained bruins jersey with absolutely no luck.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? It is funny, big shows like Sex and the City almost glamorize it, and I have had it at least ten times. I think that if it is consensual, and both parties agree why not.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? interesting

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