What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 24
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Springfield, Missouri
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Care worker
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 17
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
One night stand
How long ago did this hookup happen? 4.5 years
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? We had known each other 4 or 5 years previously. I met him freshman year of high school. He was tall, thin with long blonde hair and brown eyes. I thought he was cute but so did my best friend at the time and they dated. One thing led to another, we were in high school and we got in a fight, me, him, my friend, everyone. So we didn’t talk for a few years. He went from the skinny long haired musician to a short haired athletic build guy.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We were at a party. I was feeling pretty confident in general. We had never flirted before, as far as I was aware he had never even given me a second glance. We were sitting next to each other due to lack of seating, I’m typically not a touchy person but the proximity coupled with a lack of inhibitions, I was feeling handsy. I touched his thigh. Not in an overtly sexual way, just a light touch. Every time, I moved my hand during the conversation I’d graze his thigh or just let my hand rest there. Again, not really with the intention of seduction just flirting for fun. He never said anything or reacted as far as I know.
Later, we were playing a card-based drinking game and he calls me out on it. He said I something along the lines of “don’t act coy: because I was definitely flirting with him. I denied nothing but told him that “if I wanted to fuck him, we’d be fucking already.” I’m usually not that confident but I was feeling it that evening. He gave me a look and I knew at that point he was up for the challenge I had just laid out in front of him.
We spent the next few hours on the cusp of horny as hell and not knowing what to do about it and drinking.
I went to go get another drink and he came up behind me, put his hand up my shorts and stuck his fingers in my pussy, anyone paying attention could have seen.
We drank a bit more, I went to go barf in the toilet. He walked in on me cleaning up my puke and we started fucking right there on the bathroom floor.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We started on the bathroom floor, I honestly can’t think of any description besides fucking. We were not tender, caring lovers. This was years of pent-up aggressive energy, this was hours of teasing and flirting, and it was a surprise. I never thought I’d be fucking the guy I had a crush on when I was 14, who dated my best friend, who was mean to me at 15, who I had not spoken to since.
I don’t know how long we were in the bathroom, and I don’t remember how clothed or how graceful our transition outside was but the next thing I really remember is him fucking me doggy style in the bushes on the side of the house.
We moved from the bushes to the parking garage to a random car, just fucking each other’s brains out. The whole night is pretty much a blur of sex with a few details peppered in.
That was the first time someone had talked dirty to me and I thought it was so hot. He was talking cock and pussy and calling me a little slut. I remember sucking his cock while he ate my pussy. He fingered my ass while he fucked me and then he fucked my ass. It was hot, dirty, rough and sloppy.
Neither of us got off that night, we fucked for about 4 hours total. We wound up just giving up and falling asleep in the car we found. Early the next morning we got up and walked to our cars together. He said due to his medication and the alcohol he didn’t remember a single thing from that night. It hurt my feelings so I never called him or anything.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close
Did your partner have an orgasm? No
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I believed him about not remembering until at a different party I found myself in a situation between him and his friend. Both of them were touching my thighs and they didn’t realize the other one was doing it. We all went skinny dipping together and he was trying to get me alone. I slept with his friend that night because his friend would remember it.
That was almost 5 years ago. We still see each other regularly due to mutual friends. We have never spoken of that night and for the most part we just act like it never happened, sometimes there feels like there is some unresolved sexual tension but that’s a door we leave unexplored.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Intoxication, Revenge / Getting even
How intoxicated were you? Completely wasted
What substances did you consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish
How intoxicated was your partner? Completely wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Somewhat
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told my friends (who were also his friends), one being my now boyfriend.
They all thought it was pretty random, but had nothing negative to say.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? It was empowering. I felt more confident that night than typical and he had never shown any interest before then. I did that.
It also showed me things I like that I had not known before.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Now when I spend time with him, my current boyfriend and their friends I’m a little embarrassed when the conversation gets sexual at all. I hooked up with all of them at different points in the 10 years I’ve known them.
Honestly, I still want to hook up with him.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No, I was into casual sex before. I think it’s fun as long as you’re safe and happy. I’ve been in a monogamous relationship for almost 5 years that started with casual sex.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Casual sex is fun. It’s carnal. I had only had casual sex for years, my first and only monogamous sexual relationship started 4 years after I was sexually active.
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