What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 18
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What country and/or city do you live in? UK
Highest education received: High school diploma
What’s your occupation? Sales assistant / student
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 2
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
One Night Stand
How long ago did this hookup happen? Two days ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I met him on the street outside a bar as it was closing, we started chatting and laughing. Then he asked me to come him with him and I did.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We went back to his, smoked some cush and then I sat on his sofa and we talked a bit more. Then I got into bed with him, he put a film on, and then he turned me so I was facing him and started kissing me.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? He went down on me, fingered me and then we had sex and did more oral afterwards. He kept kissing my lips and my neck during the sex and I was biting his lip. I felt a lot better about it than the last hookup I had and we were even laughing during the sex. Then we spooned and just spoke for a bit while he continued to finger me. Then we just fell asleep.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? I don’t know
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I didn’t have any regrets, I woke up before him and just stayed there wrapping my legs around his.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal, Discussed STI testing history
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Intoxication, To feel better about myself, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident, To cheer myself up
How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did you consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish
How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My friends, some were proud and others found it funny but unsurprising. I can sense that some of them secretly judge what I did though, because they never have. However, I think if other people I know who I’m not friends with found out they would probably just think I’m a hoe.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Mixed (Some positive, some negative)
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I just had a good time
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? That the guy was getting with someone I know, but I didn’t know that at the time.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Made it even better.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I lost my virginity to a one night stand, so I don’t have any problems with them. I think people need to stop the double standards, because I’m a slut for hooking up with guys on a night out but the guy is seen in a much more positive way.
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