What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 36
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Lincoln, Nebraska
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (currently pursuing)
What’s your occupation? Graduate teaching assistant
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 12
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
One Night Stand with Out of Town Stripper
How long ago did this hookup happen? 13 years
What was your relationship status at the time? Dating casually
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She was a friend of my roommates’. She was thin with large tattoos and dark hair. She was almost twenty years older than me. I barely knew her at all. She was evacuating from a hurricane, and my roommates knew her and asked if I minded if she stayed with us even though they were out of town. I had literally not had a single sexual thought about her before our one-night-stand.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? She was bored and in a strange city where she knew no one, so she asked if I would take her to some bars. She kept insisting on buying me more drinks even though I was typically a light drinker, so I drank far more than I usually would have. At some point during the night, she wanted to go to a strip club because she was a stripper back home and thought that if she were forced to relocate for very long, she should know about the strip clubs. After that we went back to my home. We were standing by the kitchen chatting when out of nowhere she asked if she could give me a blow job. I was stunned and the first thing I said was, “Why?” Hilarious in hindsight! Why would I ask her why? So she said she thought I was nice and clean, and wanted to thank me for being so kind and showing her around. So I said yes and she took off her dress in one quick motion to reveal she wasn’t wearing anything underneath it. She undid my pants and started sucking my dick as I stood there by the kitchen.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We took a shower before continuing because after sucking my dick for a bit she decided she wanted to fuck me and she felt gross. So we showered, making out and groping each other. Then we moved to the bed. We had vaginal sex with a condom in a few different positions. I had difficulties staying hard since I was so drunk, but I managed to cum after she suggested I do so. She had me go down on her after that. Going down on her was unlike going down on any woman before or since. She had an enormous clit and basically wanted me to suck on it instead of licking. Then she had me put my fingers in her. But gradually she kept having me add more fingers and pulled my hand further into her until my entire hand except for my thumb was in her vagina. She ground and writhed aggressively while I sucked hard, barely keeping my mouth locked to her clit. She had an orgasm this way. We then went to sleep.
In the morning she woke me up with a blowjob. We then went out to breakfast then came back and fucked again and I went down on her again.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? The experience was overall very fun, and I still have fond memories of it. She gave me the best blowjob I’ve ever experienced in my life. But at the time I was feeling guilty because I had started dating someone recently. It was pretty casual, and we hadn’t made a strict commitment at the time, but I knew that she would be devastated if she found out.
I had no hopes or plans for the future. I understood it was a one-time thing. I have no real feelings about her now. She left a couple of days later and I never saw her again. It’s been about thirteen years at this point.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Intoxication, Just happened, I don’t know why just went along with it
How intoxicated were you? Completely wasted
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I only ever told two very good friends. They both pretty much just gave me enthusiastic kudos.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? A little bit
Why do you regret this hookup? Because I had started to date someone recently. I went on to stay with that person for seven years and never told her that I had cheated on her early in our relationship.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? It was physically very exciting and unique. I’ve never had another sexual experience like it. She gave the most amazing blow-job!
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The feeling of guilt in the following days.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Not really. I was always open to the idea of sexual expression. Then and now I believe that there is nothing wrong with casual sex as long as everyone is consenting and not getting hurt.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I’ve had a couple of other casual encounters in my life and I’ve never really regretted any of them. I think that sex can be done for many reasons, and just having it for fun is a perfectly valid reason. Sex is fun and if a person has no reason not to, and if they are with a person they want to have sex with, they should go for it.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I think it’s an interesting way to collect peoples’ stories. There is too much of a stigma placed by our society on sex in general, and especially on casual sex.
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