by Kinky Mink
What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 31
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Denmark
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 19
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
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How long ago did this hookup happen? 5 years ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He has blue eyes and blond hair and an almost perfect body. He is taller, than me, covered with tattoos and he is really handsome. He wrote me a short message on the facebook about how nice I was, but I ignored it for a half year. Then somehow I replied, and we met. It was a little bit awkward, because I was nervous before the date, so I started to drink, then at the bus stop, I met with my friends, who offered me a little more drinks, so I got totally wasted, and I was 1 hour late…. Well, not a nice start, I know…. Then we went into a pub, where I continued to drink, then we said goodbye to each other. I was sure, that we would never meet again. But fortunately, he was brave enough to ask me for a second date.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We met in the city in the evening and I suggested to buy a few bottles of wine, and drink and chat in a park. (We’ve been punks – and we still are -, so that wasn’t an extreme thing.) He got drunk way faster, than me. He threw up, but we started to make out anyway. At that point I knew, that I want him to fuck me, no matter what! We went to the shop, bought more wine, and headed to his flat.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? It was a really long way to his home, because it is really hard to run and make out at the same time. Then finally we entered to his flat – because of the walking he got almost sober. We went to the bedroom, turned on the music. He sat on his bed, I sat on his lap and got undressed. I kissed his neck, his chest and finally I sucked on his perfect dick. It took only a few minutes for him to have an orgasm. Then he started to lick my pussy – actually I’m not a big fan of that, it is not exciting for me and I have never had and orgasm during it. He got hard again in no time, so I asked him to fuck me. We started in missionary, and his rhythm was perfect for me, just like the scent of his body, his lips and his breath on my neck and the sight of his body in the blueish light of the monitor. I could have an orgasm only because of these things, but on the top of everything, he had his dick inside me, so perfect recipe for the pleasure! (Actually this is how I reach the orgasm: I focus on things separately, like how does it feel like, how does it smell like, how does it tastes like, how does it sounds like, and I got more and more turned on) I just didn’t really want to end it, so I said to him to sit up. We have been sitting there, making out, but it was clear, that it didn’t help us to calm down, and we both got closer and closer to the orgasm. So I started to move and not more than 10 seconds later we came… together (I have never thought, that this could happen on our first night, but it did happen). It was one of my best orgasms ever! Then I lay down. I didn’t really want to cuddle, or anything, like this, so my feet were close to his head and I placed mine on his legs and I lit my cigarette and try to breath normally. We didn’t say a word, just laugh and smiled. Then I kissed his dick. In the next moment his totally hard cock was in my throat and his head was between my legs, while we were laying on our sides. This time he rolled me and we started and ended in the spoon position and it was really passionate. After we had the next wonderful orgasm, I smoked another cigarette, but he still had an erection, but we have been too tired to continue, so he slid his dick back into me and we fell asleep.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? On the next day we continued to fuck, then we became a couple. Then I broke up with him, and a year ago we started to date again, but I live really far from him now, and we cannot meet often, so we stayed to be lovers when I’m at home, but nothing more – despite the fact, that we are in love with each other. We have no other options, just to enjoy a few days together in every 3 months!
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Intoxication
How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? A little bit later I told about this to one of my best friends. He said, that he was happy, that I was happy!
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Everything! It was perfect!
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Some tracks from his Misfits playlist I didn’t like.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? No STIs, thank God!
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I enjoy it, because I like sex and it’s fun. I think, that in the society it helps the people to get to know each other better, make new friends and be entertained.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I heard a TED talk about it, and I got curious. I think it is nice and useful not to demonize casual sex, but try to understand it.
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