What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 18
What’s your race/ethnicity? Southeast Asian
What continent do you live on? Europe
Highest education received: Not graduated from high-school
What’s your occupation? Student
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 5
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 1
One Thing Led To Another…
How long ago did this hookup happen? About 3 months ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? My partner happens to be my best friend. We’ve always discussed being friends with benefits in our senior year. I had lost my virginity quite early on and him and I discussed that after he would lose his virginity, we’d fool around to experiment and try new things as we were both super comfortable with each other. I met my partner at school, we’ve always been pretty close and I share almost everything with him. I didn’t feel any romantic feelings for him prior to the hookup, just saw him as a friend.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I was out with another friend, I was quite drunk and tipsy and felt that my other friend was coming on to me. He and I got pretty close during those months but he has a girlfriend and I was afraid that if I stayed with him any longer in my state, that something would happen. So I left and don’t even remember how I ended up at my partner’s house, but I did. I went over to his house and was quite tipsy and one thing led to another and before you know it, we were in his bed, naked, all over each other. I didn’t really take anything seriously, this hookup was just a fun experience for me.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We started off by just making out, oral, the typical stuff. However, at that point I didn’t know that he had already lost his virginity. When he asked me if I wanted to go further, I was a bit surprised and obviously agreed. So he took a condom and we fucked. The hookup was very passionate, in fact, I left in the morning with massive hickeys that I wasn’t even aware of until later. After we hooked up, we cuddle a bit, but never for too long as we’d just get horny and be all over each other again. As I was leaving, I instinctively kissed him goodbye, which was a little weird.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close
Did your partner have an orgasm? I don’t know
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? The next day I just wanted more. As with most of my hookups, the day after I feel regret but also for some reason, get super attached. I didn’t really see my partner in this way before but after the hookup I wanted to be more than friends with him. Since then, nothing happened. I don’t know if anything will happen in the future. Now, we’re back to normal. Just friends. But I definitely wouldn’t mind repeating that night with them again.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness
How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? I don’t know
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I talked to my sister about it, she didn’t expect it to happen. I also didn’t. It was quite difficult to hide anything as both of us had massive hickeys so at school, some of our friends easily joined the dots.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Mixed (Some positive, some negative)
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? A little bit
Why do you regret this hookup? I definitely felt a little hurt afterwards. I don’t know if it was simply lust or actual feelings, but I definitely developed something towards him after our hookup. So seeing him at school, being super casual, and awkward towards me, hurt me a bit.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? It was very spontaneous and very passionate.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The aftermath of feeing a sense of loneliness.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Not really, I’ve always liked casual sex. I haven’t been in a relationship in a long time which is where I think this desire for closeness comes from.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
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