What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 34
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA, Alabama
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Sales and Marketing
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Not really
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 12
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None
One Time FWB with an Ex
How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 years ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Sex with an ex
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? We met on a dating site and dated for 6 months before he left for a new job across the country. Afterward, we immediately both entered 2 year long relationships and rarely kept in touch. We broke up with our significant others within months of each other and he had moved back in town. He was still super hot- 6’1, lean, muscular body, killer smile, short corporate cut hair. He was always in a suit for his job. We always respected and liked each other but had more lust than romantic feelings.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We went out drinking and ended up at his house. We made out and after I went down on him he passed out and I did too. I was super aroused so I was kinda pissed.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? The next morning he woke up while I got dressed and I complained about not getting laid in months. He grinned that hot smile and says, “I have condoms. Let’s take care of you.” I thought for a second we shouldn’t but I’d know I’d regret it. We started kissing he took my clothes off and pulled me on top of him. He definitely fucked like he hadn’t been fucked in forever! It was so good, then he laid me on my back missionary pulling my hands above my head and fucked me till we both came.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I mentioned how it didn’t seem weird and we both agreed if we wanted to stay friends, we couldn’t have sex anymore. ( Although when he drinks he still tries, but now he’s one of my best friends so I don’t let it happen)
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), To feel more desirable, To cheer myself up
How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I never told anyone.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? His dick was one of the best and he knew how to use it. A+
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Nothing really.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes. After it happened I still am very cautious but I feel sexually more free and confident and open.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Sex with an ex you still are friends with can be great as long as you’re both mature and on the same page.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think casual sex is good for some people. It’s not for everyone. I enjoyed it immensely.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I like that it showcases real stories.
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