by Molly

Gender: Female
Age: 27
Race/ethnicity: White
Location: Cleveland, OH
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
Occupation: Rehabilitation Counselor
Relationship status: In a committed relationship
Religious affiliation: Agnostic/Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 7
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

One-Time Sex With a Good Friend

How long ago did this hookup happen? 4 years ago

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? One time sex with a friend

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? My partner was a bi-racial male (black/Hispanic), a very good friend of mine. He had had very strong feelings for me in the past, and I had rejected him but we remained friends. I often had a fleeting attraction to him which I never pursued as I didn’t want him to get emotionally attached. I loved him deeply before the hook-up. We were very close friends, and his openness was attractive to me, but due to our many personality differences (he lived off McDonalds and prefers expensive furniture; I was a vegetarian and a thrift store shopper for ethical reasons) I never considered having a relationship with him. I’m not sure I considered having sex with him before this trip, but he was very sexual and it turned me on to know he was thinking about it.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I visited him for a weekend where he was attending college, in another state. We were always very flirtatious with each other. He was probably hoping to have sex and planning for it. I was not necessarily but probably knew it might happen. Once I was there in this new city with him, it was all I could think of. As he showed me around the city, I just wanted to go home and have him ravage me. We went back to his house at the end of the night and put on a movie. I changed into my pajamas, strategically choosing not to wear a bra so he could see my breasts through my shirt. I was nervous and trying to be coy, but he made a move.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Vaginal sex, nothing kinky but very satisfying. He was a passionate lover. I was happy, aroused, laughing and joking, as I always joked with him. I think he was a little uncomfortable with my joking, but he was also amused. He orgasmed.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We did talk about STI history. He wore a condom.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I knew he was very attracted to me, and this turned me on. I also was attracted to him. It was the first time in our relationship that we were truly alone and had the privacy to have sex.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? No.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I suddenly had very strong feelings for him. For a couple weeks after the hook-up, I was convinced that I was in love with him and was tormented by the fact that we lived so far apart and could not be together. I expressed this to him, and he kindly rejected me. I was hurt, but now I understand that I always feel that way about someone when I hook up with them! He has a fiancé now, and we don’t talk anymore.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? A couple close friends. They laughed, didn’t quite get it, but didn’t disapprove.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes, we both wanted each other badly.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? No.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It was intimate and it was fun. I laughed throughout it, as I always laughed around him, but it was also sexy and satisfying.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup or anything else? Though we don’t talk anymore, this is a very fond memory I continue to have of my friend. I am so grateful to have experienced this with him.

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