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What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 31
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? California
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Graphic Designer
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Sexually adventurous
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 14
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
One Weekend of Bliss
How long ago did this hookup happen? 3 years
What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (monogamous)
How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? To preface the situation:
I did have a boyfriend. We had been dating less than 6 months, but things were quickly heading into a downward spiral. Fights all the time. And I guess I had seen the end coming: I was going to a close friend’s wedding and I didn’t even check the +1 box on the RSVP. A few days, and one huge fight, before my trip I finally decided that I was breaking up with him. We just weren’t able to see each other before I left, and I wasn’t going to call it off via the phone. So emotionally, I had moved on.
I flew into D.C. for a 3 day weekend to attend my high school buddies’ wedding. Most of the people going were his bros from under grad, grad school, and family (none of whom I knew), so the plan was to make it a bonding trip with a few other high school girl-friends that were also there to see him tie the knot. The night we flew in, all the extended friends were invited up to the wedding suite to meet each other. That’s where I first met “Finn.”
He spoke with a casual confidence and moved gracefully like a southern gentleman. 6 foot tall, lean and well built with a golden tan. Deep brown eyes and a kind smile, a la George Clooney. Chiseled jaw. 5 o’clock. A San Diego surfer, now at school in D.C—his hair shone with blonde highlights from the sun. I knew I wanted him and I could tell he was looking at me too.
Me and my girls shared a few drinks with everyone up and the suite, but we wanted to play tourists around town so we skipped out early.
The next day at the pre-wedding cocktail hour Finn and I spotted each other in the crowd and slowly started making our way towards one another. Neither of us came with a date. We played it cool. We sipped our drinks over the standard getting to know you conversation. He was freshly single. I led him to believe that I was single too. And once the ceremony started we took seats next to each other…I even saw him shed a few tears…it kind of turned me on.
After the vows were said everyone made their way to the ballroom for the reception, and we had to part ways–we weren’t seated at the same table.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? After the reception, and now slightly inebriated, Finn and I found each other in the sea of friends at the hotel bar. The girl I was with tried to convince me to ditch the guy and just go back up to the with them to get some sleep, but it was only 10:30 and I wanted to stay out, socialize, and seek adventure. With each drink Finn and I got more bold. We quickly went from sneaking sexy glances at the table to finding a dark hallway where we could make out. A group of about 20 people decided to bounce around a few different bars in Georgetown and we joined in the fun.
We danced. When no one was watching, his strong hands explored my body and my hands found his hard cock through his pants. It was thrilling. It was last call. Coincidentally, we were just a few blocks away from Finn’s apartment.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? It took a long time to walk back to his place. I’d wait till no one was around them pin him up against a tree to steal a kiss, a few minutes later he would push me onto a bench steal one right back. Once we got to his apartment we immediately began stripping each other of clothes.
To finally see his nude body was so satisfying. I was beyond aroused and the kind of sexual tension we had built up through the night was something I had never experienced. It was as if with each move we were daring each other to take it further, challenging each other to gain control, and yet always keeping it flirtatious and playful.
Finn pinned me down, looked directly in my eyes and started fucking me. I pulled him deeper and thrust back, hard. I flipped us over and straddled him, keeping my arms against the wall so I could push against him. He sat up with me still on top of him and continued kissing me and held me close to his body, grinding inside me.
He racked his nails down my entire back. I looked in his eyes while tugging on his sun-bleached locks and teasing his cock with my pussy. He went down on me from behind and slapped my ass till I was dripping wet and begging for him to continue fucking me. I slapped him across the face and he smile. I chocked myself on his cock only coming up for air when I had to. We exchanged devilish grins, passionate kisses, and multiple orgasms. Then we slept the deepest of sleeps naked and wrapped in each others arm.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? The next morning we woke early and shared a lot of whispered pillow talk. How sexy we thought each other were, how much fun we had, what our favorite position was, and he asked if I wanted to stay the night again. We showered together and had more sex—it was calmer, slower, more tender. I put back on my dress from the night before and did a full on walk of shame back to the hotel, but I was still floating a mile above Earth.
When I got back to the hotel room my friends pointed out in half-horror, that I had bright red scratch marks down my entire back. I laughed. They didn’t understand.
After a full day of site-seeing with the girls and meeting up with the large group of friends for dinner and drinks, I made my way back to Finn’s arms and his bed. The night had fewer drinks but was filled with just as much passion. I slept in his arms again and the following morning he asked me, “Could you ever see yourself loving someone like me?” And my answer was, “Yes.”
We exchanged phone numbers and Facebooks.
I broke up with my boyfriend a few days after I returned home. Finn and I called each other several times over the next 6 months: happy birthday calls, a few drunken “I miss fucking you” calls, and a failed attempt to try to hang when he was visiting my coast. But a bi-coastal love affair doesn’t really play out well if you don’t have private jets, so it faded pretty fast.
I still think about our weekend of love with a smile on my face, knowing that he’s the best I’ve had to date. When I found out that he now engaged, my first thought was wondering if he and his fiance share as much passion in the bedroom.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Intoxication, Power / Dominance, Making new friends
How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I was exploding to tell one of my close girl friend’s who wasn’t able to make it to the wedding. She essentially high-fived me over the phone, especially after I sent her a pic of him.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? It was so much fun to have a partner that was equally playful and challenging. It was like sexual gluttony. And damn, so handsome.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? That it only lasted 2 nights.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I had never had a partner like him before, so just knowing such a great sexual match exists is nice. And I now know that I need playful and adventurous partner to be satisfied in any long term relationships.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? For the love of God, why can’t all sex be this satisfying?!
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think casual sex is fun, as long as it is mutually desired. Both parties have to have the same intent, otherwise people might get hurt emotionally.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s nice to read other people’s casual sexual encounters because the majority of people do not like to openly talk about them. I was raised in a very Christian household, so sex was not an okay topic of conversation. It’s taken a lot of conscience effort to allow myself to speak openly about sex and to have fewer inhibitions in the bedroom.
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