What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 44
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Kentucky USA
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Self employed
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 12 or so
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 2
One You Don’t Forget
How long ago did this hookup happen? 25 years ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For 1 to 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She had reddish blond hair, was about 5’6″, and had a nice butt and big boobs. We were in college together, and she had dated a friend of mine for almost a year. She was friends with some girls I had gone to high school with. She had made a bit of a reputation for herself, as I knew of five guys she had hooked up with. She liked sex, had a nice body, and could get laid whenever she wanted. Mostly, she just fooled around with the same five guys. We were all fraternity brothers and talked about it. Nobody ever got jealous. She wasn’t a whore she just liked hooking up.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We had fooled around a few times before: hand jobs, blow jobs, titty fucking, nothing really major between us. This night, we were at a party sitting on the porch with loud music playing. I had a pretty good buzz, and I realized my ride had left my half drunk ass at the party. She was on the porch too. We’d been talking about something that had happened over the summer, and I said dammit I’m gonna have to walk back to campus. She told me she could drive me back. She hadn’t been drinking. Anyway, now I had a ride so I kept on drinking. I had a nice warm buzz and was ready to go to sleep when she said it was time to go.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Driving back to campus, she missed my street (I think on purpose). She drove on to her house she shared with her sisters. We got there and went to her room. Neither of the roommates was home. She gave me some clothes to change into to sleep and changed into shorts and a t-shirt. She told me to sleep in her bed and she’d sleep in her sisters. I was drunk and about half asleep when she came and got into bed with me. I remember saying, “can I kiss you good night” and then it was off to the races. We kissed and I didn’t want “just” a blow job, which is all we had ever done before. I wanted to fuck. I put my hand down her shorts and pulled them down before I reached up her shirt to fondle those magnificent boobs. I had her totally naked, and she had her hand down my shorts stroking my cock. I pulled my shorts down and rolled on top of her, lined up, and slipped in. For a girl that fucked a lot, she was pretty snug. She was rubbing my back when I came. I hadn’t gotten her off yet so she just went back to playing with my dick and sucking it a little till I was hard enough and she got on and rode me. She got off that time and twice more that night. Every time I came, she’d play with and lick/suck my dick till I was hard and we’d fuck some more. I wish I was 19 again.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? In the morning I was worn out, hungover, and still tired because I didn’t get much sleep. She told me to take a shower and she brought me a coffee. She brought two cups and got in the shower with me. We washed each other laughing and having a good time. She sucked me off while I drank coffee in the shower.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Intoxication, Everyone else was/is doing it, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I did tell my best friend, he was like “high five”
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? A great night of sex with a pretty woman followed by a blow job in the shower while drinking my first cup of coffee in the morning. That may be the best eight hours of my life.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The twin bed, but we were usually on top of or inside each other so if we had a king size bed it wouldn’t have mattered.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes, a little. Casual sex can be great if you’re with someone who wants to have a good time and wants you to have a good time too.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? We got together another time about ten years later but that’s another story.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I have a much stronger sex drive than my wife. I’m lucky if I get laid twice a month.
I wish I could indulge in a night or two like the one I described but while I may have fantasies about cheating I won’t cheat on my wife.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I love reading these stories. At least someone is getting lucky.
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