by Mel


Gender: Female
Age: 22
Race/ethnicity: White
Current location: New York
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (currently pursuing)
Occupation: Student
Relationship status: Single
Religious affiliation: Catholic
How religious are you? A little
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexual orientation/sexuality better/best? Rough
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 20
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Ongoing

How long ago did this hookup happen? 6 months

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? Friends-with-benefits

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I met him when I was 11, we dated in middle school (obv. nothing serious), we rekindled our relationship status after we both had broken it off with long term relationships. First, it started out serious — we went on dates, we texted a lot, etc. However, with our busy schedules as Master’s students, we didn’t have time to commit to “dating” we couldn’t go out all of the time, we couldn’t see each other every day. So, what started as a potential relationship, turned into us having sex a few times (at least once) a week.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? It began in December, I was on vacation and he added me as a friend on an online app. We started talking a lot and rekindling our friendship and went on a date the day I got back.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Vaginal, oral, it felt great, I did get a little emotionally attached, but he felt the same way. He was an amazing lover, I gave him advice as he was doing things to me and he directed me to where he wanted me to do things with him. He was into trying new positions and was not scared to take control.

Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? Yes, I orgasmed and so did he.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We did discuss history of partners and STI’s. We also used condoms throughout hooking up.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? Attractiveness & connection

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? Not the first few times, but yes after — not a lot.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I developed feelings for him, he reciprocated but wanted to hook up with other people. We still hookup we’re not exclusive.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My friends, they weren’t exactly thrilled I was having casual sex because they didn’t want me to get hurt.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes, yes.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? He made me orgasm every time, he took charge, and he is hot. 
No it has not affected the way I view casual sex, or myself. I’ll always be liberal

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

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