What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 33
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? United States
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (currently pursuing)
What’s your occupation? Biologist
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? None
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 9
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
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How long ago did this hookup happen? Currently happening
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He has blond hair and blue eyes and the first night we met we hooked up. I was immediately attracted to him when I met him, especially to his voice. I met him on an online dating app. We had never hooked up or met or seen each other before.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We both planned on meeting in person, but he instigated staying the night at my apartment and he slept in my bed. I woke up to him early in the morning caressing my nipples underneath my bra.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? He started putting his hands down my pants and fingering me, then started asking, “why are you so wet?” He took off his pants and I took off his pants and we started pleasuring each other. He then got on top of me and started taking off all of my clothing and entered me and started having his way with me. He held me down and started fucking me really hard and it felt really REALLY good. It felt so good, that I hadn’t had such great sex since I was 19 years old when a 33 year old had his way with me. He was a really good lover. Things ended when I orgasmed–he was determined to make me orgasm even though it was going to take me a while. We didn’t talk about much after, just who was going to take a shower first. I showered first because I had to go to work. When we said our goodbyes outside, I joked around about him not kissing me, and he laughed. But he ended up texting me again for more hooking up.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? No
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I didn’t care whether or not he called me again but he ended up texting because he wanted more sex. It has been 6 months and we are still fuck buddies, but we are both really busy so we see each other may be once or twice a month. I don’t see a future with him, but it has been fun for the time being. It may have to end soon.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal, Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have, Intoxication, To feel better about myself, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident, To cheer myself up, I was feeling lonely, Submission / Relinquishing power, Boredom, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I talked to a friend about this hookup and she sent me the Ted talk that talks about this website.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Neutral
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Do you regret this hookup? A little bit
Why do you regret this hookup? My emotions started to get involved when he started to share more about himself the more that we saw each other, but he still only wants to be fuck buddies.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The SEX!!
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The emotional crap.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes! I know more of what I am looking for in a partner.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? The stigma needs to change. Hookups can be OK.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Very cool project. Hopefully more people will find out about it and share their experiences.
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