by AJ

Gender: Female

Age: 39
Race/ethnicity: Caucasian
Location: Ireland
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
Occupation: Student
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 2

Online Dating

How long ago did this hookup happen? Still happening

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? We met online through a dating site. We messaged each other for a week or so before meeting up. Didn’t know one another at all. I felt nervous about meeting up, hence told a friend.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? The Hook up began at his place. He had asked me a few times online to meet with him at his place just for sex. And that is what we did. We had talked online about each other’s sexual desires so we both knew before hand.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? As soon as I went into his place it was all go. The sex was fantastic, vaginal, anal and oral…. not many have managed to satisfy me like he did.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We didn’t discuss precaution but I was on the Depo Provera injection. I don’t like rain coats. I do keep up to date with checks with my GP.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? My reason was to see if a man can satisfy a woman sexually or is it just lay back and think of Ireland. I was married for years and got little or no pleasure.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? No

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? As I was walking down his stairs he said maybe we can do this again… and I thought in your dreams man… haha… the joke was on me… I have no hopes for the future. I am well aware I am not his ideal woman. But the sex is earth moving, so if that is what I get it’s more than I can ask for. I am very fond of him but will not allow myself to become emotionally connected as I know it will only break my heart.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My friend knows. My friend understands my situation. I told my sister who wasn’t very impressed. She called me a slut. I no longer discuss this with her.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? This is exactly what I wanted. I was told for many years throughout my marriage that the sex department was my fault. This experience taught me it isn’t about the sex it’s about the two people involved. It’s about the hang ups one may have. It’s about seeing the pleasure for what it can bring.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Definitely Not.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? This has changed my thinking. My marriage partner was my first sexual experience for 17 yrs. This hook up showed me sex can give much desirable pleasure.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup or anything else? I know this hook up will go nowhere. But I feel he does not want to let me go. We still chat (online) and we still meet up but just for sex (It could be months apart). He stays at mine. We have a great time. But where it will go almost 2 and half years later, I still can’t see anymore than I did the first time. But one thing is for certain I know what earthing-moving sex feels like……. 🙂
The only negative I would have is the not knowing…. For definite, the feeling that he still holds on… or so it feels… and yes part of me likes it… but also understands I am not his dream woman….

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