What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 24
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 7
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 2
How long ago did this hookup happen? 1 week
What was your relationship status at the time? Dating casually
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Rachel was my partner. I met her using the app PURE. In her photo, Rachel was smiling wide, had dark brown hair and a lot of eye makeup on, and was wearing just an apron. I thought she looked great and we started chatting back and forth in-app, then by text message. I had some extra time between my work events (the reason I was in town), and she had a few free hours, too.
Rachel was really direct with me and told me she wanted someone only perform oral on her, and nothing else. I want the opportunity to practice and get better, so I told her that worked well for me. Slowly but steadily, we revealed some fantasies to each other, and wound up with something like a script of how this was going to go down.
Within two hours of first talking, she was knocking on my hotel room.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I opened the door. Like we agreed in the texts, she walked in and I didn’t say anything aloud. She had a fantasy of walking in a room, pushing me down, lifting up her dress (no underwear), and making me eat her out while I was in all my clothes, so that’s what we did. She pushed me back onto my bed. I was on my back, and she crawled up and straddled my face (with her vulva right in front of my nose and her ass toward my feet). She had let me pick out (from a few options) which dress she was going to wear, and even though it’s winter, she wore this beautiful flowing sundress with flowers all over it. I pulled her dress aside and took a look at her vulva, which was completely hairy–it looked like she hadn’t cut her hair at all in months. I had never seen that in real life, and it was a huge turn-on and immensely appetizing.
I had to be silent, but Rachel was allowed to speak. She would growl at me and tell me how she wanted it. She also choked me a little when I came up for air or to rest my jaw. We had agreed on all of this beforehand.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I rubbed her thighs, slowly and firmly. She then told me to start licking her, which I did. All around, everything that my tongue and lips could reach. Then I moved up to her clit, and started sucking there. Even though we were in a rhythm, there were a couple of times when I just had to breathe, so I’d for a breath, and she’d choke me and growl at me, in this real sexy sort of growl, saying to get back to work. Her dominance was the hottest part of our time together, and I’m really hard now writing about it. Her growl, and her choking, and her squeezing my head with her thighs while she was on top…it was incredible.
I worked my fingers into her, in sync with my mouth and her grinding.
After about twenty minutes after she first got on top of me, she came and started grabbing my head, writhing against my mouth really hard. I slowed down to a stop, then stayed put, like we agreed, while I kept rubbing her thighs.
She got off of me and stood up, and pulled her dress down all neat. At this point, I was about the hardest I had ever been. She looked at me, cheeks red, leaned over me and grabbed me between my penis and my ass, and said, “You’re free now.” Then she walked out.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? She texted me after saying we could do it again, with inverted roles–so it’d be at her place, with her on her back, and me in control and getting an orgasm from her. I don’t know the next time I’ll be back in her city, but it should be soon, so we’re planning on seeing each other again.
This is not at all something that’s going to become a relationship. It’s a way to respectfully build and fulfill fantasies together.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Discussed STI testing history, No penetrative sex happened
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have, Submission / Relinquishing power
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one, yet. I’m open to talking about it with the right people, but it hasn’t come up yet, and this isn’t an everyday thing for me.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The sensations of seeing her hairy vulva, and feeling her restrict me with her thighs around my head and her hand around my throat.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The fact that we live in different cities.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes. I didn’t before *truly realize* that I could find someone who wants to explore fantasies with me.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Just like with committed, relationship sex, casual sex will be good if there’s an abundance of communication and listening from everyone involved. WHY are we doing this, WHAT are we doing, WHAT do we need to happen, WHAT cannot happen. This experience checked all those boxes.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I love it–it gives me both ideas and hope.
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