What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 23
What’s your race/ethnicity? Mixed / Multiracial
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Los Angeles
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Student
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? “A bull in a cage” this is an inside joke.
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 6
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? O
Oral sex at the movies? Yes please!
How long ago did this hookup happen? 8yrs
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a month
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I met this girl through a mutual friend one day when she came over to my house. She came over with two of her girlfriends. i felt an instant sexual tension towards both of her friends. The feeling was mutual with one of her friends. She was probably two years younger than i, white, pretty face, and had a nice, round ass–you’d think she’d have some latin in her blood. At any rate, she wasnt the typical white chick. Because she hung out with latinas, she acted latina. It was quite sexy.
The first impression in had of her was that she was not a virgin. Non-virgin people have a different demeanor. But apparently she was according to my friend.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? After meeting her at my house we kept in touch via online chat rooms. AIM was the thing back then. We flirted, got to know each others sexual history and fantasies through online chatting. The tension between us magnified 10 fold in the interim of our next meet up.
Planning was involved. We both were attending different highschools at the time and wanted to be lowkey about our plans. Planning took several forms: by chatting online we developed a better understanding of our expressed sexual strengths and fantasies. I was more experienced; she was a sexually curious.
We agreed to go to the movies together.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Ill never forget the experience.
We attended a local theater near my spot and bought tickets for Ghost Rider. The theater was not filled — thank god because i new it was going to go down in there. Nonetheless, there were movie goers in attendance so we sat at the very back in the last row right against the wall.
I dont recall what happened in the film because there was no movie watching involved between the both of us. Almost immediatly, once we were situated, we started making out. The sexual tension between us just poured out of us. We felt on each others’ bodies; her hands over my jeans on my erect penis and my hands on her perky breasts and thick butt. Soon thereafter, she began unzipping my pants and whipped out my dick. She went down and i went into heaven.
Its amazing how long she sucked my dick. I couldnt cum for some reason, yet that didnt seem to bother her because she stayed down and continued to suck, lick, stroke, deepthroat, and lick my head with a sustained fervor.
I recall thinking to myself how amazing it felt and that this would go down as one of the best blowjobs ever. We’ll see.
The entire situation was exhilirating because audience members walked in and out intermittently. So when someone entered or began to exit the theater, we paused momentarily as if we we just watching the movie, with her hand placed over my cock, yet covered by my sweater, and with built up anticipation to resume our business.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close
Did your partner have an orgasm? No
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I took the bus with her to drop her off at her apartment. I dont recall how i felt the next day. The only expectation we had of each other was the mutual understanding that we were solely having-which continued to be the case.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Just spoke about our sexual history
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Probably my close friend.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Mixed (Some positive, some negative)
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The oral sex coupled with it occuring at a public location. So the possibility of getting caught added to the excitment and adventure.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? nothing
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? At the time i felt cool, as would any high school male. It motivated me to have more experiences with other women.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? My views on casual sex are evolving. Ive been doing lots of research on relationship arrangements and human sexuality and have come to understand that human sexuality is complex. Casual sex and hooking up was a large part of my identity in high school. Since then, however, ive been in a long term monogomous relationship. So in terms of casual sex, ive experienced both sides of the spectrum.
i would like to see more open discussion about casual sex. I believe diologue is important, and with diologue i believe that our society can make more informed choices about our sexual desires. Moreoever, i believe open discussion will help break down barries of peoples sexual needs, reduce unwarranted shaming, and promote a culture of saftey and accountability. We need to bring this fundamental human behavior out of the showdows.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? A godsend. This is novel ground reaking research. I look forward to the insights gleaned from this research.
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