What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 28
What’s your race/ethnicity? Southeast Asian
What continent do you live on? Australia
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (currently pursuing)
What’s your current relationship status? Single
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 2
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? A few
Our Last Fuck
How long ago did this hookup happen? Last Friday
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For 1 to 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? This is the same fuck-buddy that I began a casual arrangement with at the start of the year. It’ coming to the end of our arrangement as he’s moving out of his place soon and into a new position in the next month and wish to share my last story.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I had the Friday off and I was out in the city gymming and had to do some uni work after. It was a rainy day and I texted him to see if he was around later that afternoon. Knowing that he had to be out in a week, I wanted to make the most of the time left. Turns out he had the Friday off too and was free in the afternoon. He was packing and gaming on that day so was free in the afternoon. Later that afternoon, I went straight to his place and messaged be to bring some booze.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I entered his place with booze in toll and he was sitting at his computer in between gaming with his online mates. I settled down with the alcohol and started with the white wines. Then I casually asked him when he was going to start his new position within a month but taking leave from the transition period until he goes. He then proceeded to sit on the couch and continue watching the movie he had on since the previous night. In between, he was chatting with this online gaming mates before proceeding to go offline because he downloaded another movie. We slowly drank through our booze, watching the Russian mafia movie and enjoying it.
After the movie, he put down his sheet and towel asking if I want to fuck and proceeded to doggystyle. The alcohol relaxed me and in doggy, I felt like I was going to orgasm, maybe squirt. I held onto his wrist whilst in doggy, enjoying the last moments of his dick. I was at the end of my period and noticed, assured that it ended and we had agreed not to fuck on my period. All I can remember was falling to the side (maybe I orgasmed) and adjusting me, squirt, then flipping onto my back until he came on my stomach. He showered and I waited for him to finish showering so I could shower and get dressed. His online gamer friends were waiting for him to play and said my goodbye and left until we saw each other at work.
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I messaged him again this past Monday (still had the day off) to see if he wanted to hook-up before Friday. He mentioned he was in his packing /cleaning stage so not sure if we’ll have time to hook-up again. This is the week that I am documenting it as he is moving out of this place on Friday. After he moves and into his friend’s place for a bit, we’ll be back to normal co-workers until he leaves for his new role in the next month.
Even though I will miss the experience and him living around the area, these things happen and affirmed me that I can have experiences like this with whoever I meet. He was my first who I trusted and felt at ease. He was different with the guys that I’ve met.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), To feel better about myself
How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high
How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? It still is between us and will remain that way.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Feeling his dick. Finding a Friday fuck between us when we are both off. Experiencing the what could be our last fuck ever. Him around the area in the duration of our casual arrangement. Happy to chill with a movie.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Ending this causal arrangement him moving out his place soon. Ending period even though I assured him that it was the end and was ok with it. Even though my parents are away at the end of the month, he mentioned that he won’t risk fucking at my place. I wouldn’t want to risk it either.
Miss having him around my area to text if I want to hook-up.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? First timers can have this stigma of being emotionally attached but as I said, it hasn’t changed me at all or our work mates relationship at all. I think that’s with me being older, wiser and aware of what this involves. I really enjoy having sex and I felt this was a good opportunity to experience it now rather than later. Everyone is different and sex for me is seeking physical pleasure for myself. I wouldn’t (and never) tell my parents as this was a choice I made.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I had fun and really enjoyed being fucked. Time to look forward to opportunities like this with whoever I meet as I’m in no place for a relationship right now as I feel the need to grow on experience from life, study, work and even socially. This year was the right time and at 28 and a late bloomer, I wanted to experience these things now rather than later.
With this fuck buddy, I learned that it doesn’t have to be a full-on passionate thing but something that can be of a casual feel such as watching a movie and fucking after is good enough for me.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Even though I been with another guy previously but not had any penetrative (just fingering/close to oral), this person was someone thatI trusted and felt at ease. Had I approached this 5 years ago, it would be a different story as I wasn’t ready.
This casual arrangement was my personal choice and I don’t regret it at all. I felt that this was more of a positive one rather than a negative one.
I think with casual sex even for first timers, partners need to be in the right mindset and know this isn’t going to be a long-term thing. If you are seeking more than that, then this isn’t going to do you any good. A thing here for first timers is seeking someone who’s experienced to know what is going on.
Just as long as you are being safe and communicating and looking after your sexual health, I think it’s ok to explore casual sex just as long as you’re in the mindset.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I really enjoyed sharing my experiences with my first fuck buddy. This will be my last story for a while until I have an opportunity like this with whoever I meet in the future.
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