What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 42
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Property Management
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 3
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Out of Character Encounter

How long ago did this hookup happen? 6 Months ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (monogamous)

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was a very handsome younger guy I met at a conference I attended in October of last year. We had never met before. Before getting together I thought he was attractive but never thought about hooking up.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? WE had dinner together that evening as friends and had a few drinks. I never intended it anything other than having dinner. He instigated it by inviting me into his room for another drink because the conference we were attending was over the next morning and we would be going our separate ways..

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? It started with him giving me a kiss on the cheek. He knew I was married so I was surprised but also flattered since he was several years younger. I have been married 21 years and never had given a thought of having an affair. Other than my husband I had only had sex with one other guy who took my virginity when I was 15. When he kissed me again on the lips I went along with it thinking it would not go any further. I guess the drinks had me a little relaxed and before long we were on the bed with one thing leading to another from playing with my tits to foreplay with his fingers before he finally was gentleman enough to ask if he could have sex with me. I told him I shouldn’t but he began pulling my panties off and I got excited. When he took his pants and shorts off he laid down between my legs. I started to tell he he needed to use a condom because I wasn’t on birth control but before I could say anything he was in me. Once he was that far I didn’t want to stop because the was great. I did tell him I wasn’t on birth control so if he wanted to stop but didn’t stop. The sex was awesome and when he came I had an orgasm which made it even better.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We took our time ending it with him staying hard in me for several minutes while we talked. He joked (maybe not) about how it would be to get a married women in bed and knock her up too. I told him that was my only concern. The next day I did feel guilty and especially the fact that I let him have the chance to get me pregnant which thankfully didn’t happen. We have talked a few times since but that is all that’s as far as it will go.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it, It was easy / convenient

How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? A little bit

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? NOBODY !!!!

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? A little bit

Why do you regret this hookup? Being married

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The sex was awesome with a younger guy.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Nothing

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think it is ok for singles but not for married individuals.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Great place to get something off your mind.

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