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What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 57
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? London
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (currently pursuing)
What’s your occupation? Marketing
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Absolutely off the scale straight. Not interested sexually in women AT all.
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 35
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 1

Outdoor Sex With People Walking Past

How long ago did this hookup happen? 1 year

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a year

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Very good looking younger guy of 39, without much education but with a superb body and excellent at sex. From the very first time we chatted, I found him wildly erotic and let him ask for things and take liberties. This is very rare for me.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I couldn’t ask him into my home that particular occasion but was desperate to have sex with him, so I went out to his car and we went down to a river near my house.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I was wearing no panties, just stockings, and suspenders under my dress. I wanted him to fuck me, but it was difficult standing up so I found an edge to lean over. He fucked me from behind. It was incredibly erotic in the moonlight. We were behind a hedge and could hear people walking by. It was his fantasy that he would call one of them over and I would blow him. But of course, that didn’t happen. Instead, we had very inventive sex standing up for about 30 minutes, including kissing with his cock between my thighs, me blowing him, him fingering and licking me. How we weren’t caught I do not know. We were both completely sober too, just very very horny.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? When we had both come, we tidied ourselves and walked back to the car. He held my hand gently as I was a bit wobbly after the energetic action standing up. We see each other from time to time. It’s always a booty call late on Saturday nights. I often have to say no, but when I can say yes the sex is spectacularly good. He has excellent instincts and knows how to please me. This happens regularly but not frequently. Next time I want to have him in his car.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, Withdrawal

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? To a couple of close friends. They thought it was funny but said I must insist on condoms, which I have ever since.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The daring and excitement and danger of being outside, being so horny you couldn’t stop. The feeling of his perfect hard cock between my thighs as we kissed. From the outside, it just looked as if we were kissing, but so much more was going on. In bed, it is more relaxed and goes on for at least an hour, but both of us think about that night and it turns us both on. This is the purest sex relationship I have ever had. I am only for sex, he is only for sex. We have nothing else in common whatsoever. He loves the fact I have a natural bush as it is so rare, and he finds it wildly erotic.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The slight fear that someone might have seen us from their window.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No. It was fabulous and I just want more.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Three years ago I would have been horrified at the very idea. But my sexuality reawakened, I’ve had cancer and need to seize the day. I just need to be a bit better about condoms for best results. Each time I have sex with him, it reminds me that most guys have no idea what they are doing. So infrequent sex with him gives me a lot of what I need and something to compare others to.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Three years ago I would have been horrified at the very idea. But my sexuality reawakened, I’ve had cancer and need to seize the day. I just need to be a bit better about condoms for best results. Each time I have sex with him, it reminds me that most guys have no idea what they are doing. So infrequent sex with him gives me a lot of what I need and something to compare others to. It is vital after menopause to keep your juices flowing and keep having orgasms by yourself or with others. It fends of problems associated with the menopausal vulva and is a lot of fun. Just make sure you are safe.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Great fun and very interesting.

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