by Leila

Gender: Female
Age: 18
Race/ethnicity: Mixed
Current location: London
Highest education received: High school diploma
Occupation: Student
Relationship status: Single
Religious affiliation: Undecided
How religious are you? A little
Sexual orientation: Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexual orientation/sexuality better/best?: Open
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 10
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Outdoors

How long ago did this hookup happen? Last week

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? One night stand

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was Greek-Spanish mix, dark hair, stubble, avg height. Met in a club one night on holiday, only knew him for that night. His friend actually introduced him to me in the club and due to the questionable lighting I looked to my friends to ask them if he was attractive, they said yes so I started to dance with him (sounds shallow I know) when I saw him outside the club I confirmed in my mind that he was a spice (attractive).

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We walked for a long while toward where I thought was his hotel but it would seem he had other plans as we stopped off at a restaurant, it was approximately 3am so everything was closed and dark so we took a seat at one of the tables. He instigated it there and then, outside at a restaurant table where tomorrow someone would sit totally unaware of what had taken place only hours before.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I told him we had to move somewhere a little more private so we walked over to the wall and he lay down the seat cushions on the ground, fashioning a bed. He was quite kinky which I like, pulling my hair and some spanking. I gave him oral but he didn’t like giving oral which annoyed me, he then initiated anal, which I’d done in the past so wasn’t anything out of the ordinary and he was quite forceful which I’m sure was great for him but nothing outstanding for me. During that night we had sex 3 times. After we walked back to the club to meet my friends and said goodbye, we never spoke again.

Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? No I didn’t, he did two or three times.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? Condoms, no we didn’t discuss sti history

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? Mutual attraction, sexual craving I guess.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? I was tipsy, he was tipsy

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I have no overwhelming feelings, was neither a terrible or amazing experience. No wish for future contact.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My friends, they laughed at the laying down of cushions but thought it was cute.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes both consenting adults

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? I don’t regret it it’s just another experience

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Best thing was his rough nature as I like to be thrown around a bit and worst was the fact that on are walk back to the club he said his favourite song of the moment was afro jack. No major changes I just realise more that if I’m going to have casual sex it should still be with someone with mutual interests.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? A little positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

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