Current location: New Zealand
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
Occupation: Company Director
Relationship status: Single
Religious affiliation: None
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 31
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 8
How long ago did this hookup happen? 19 years ago
How would you best classify this hookup? one-night stand
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I had just finished a 2 month trip around Europe. It had been a wonderful trip in many ways obviously, but also disappointing. I was single, and I had hoped to have some sexual encounters with some European men but that just hadn’t happened for a variety of reasons. On the entire 2 month trip I had had one one-night stand at the very beginning of the trip, in Paris, which was with someone who came from my own country, and which had been an absolute disaster. Now it was the end of the trip and I was back in Paris, staying in a backpacker’s hostel for my very last night in Europe.
My friends and I went to the bar which was in the hostel to have some drinks. It was busy with a lot of travelers there, and standing at the bar I got talking to a guy.
He was gorgeous looking, and French. It turned out he worked part-time in the hostel, and was a university student studying English. I had studied French at University so we had a fun conversation testing our language skills. His were much better than mine. He was 19 and at this stage I was about 26. He was tall and dark with lovely eyes and a nice body. I was attracted to him.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We spent a long time talking at the bar, having a few drinks. We talked about all kinds of things. Our families, our interests, our plans for the future, our different cultures. He introduced himself properly giving me his full name. I liked him a lot.
The bar was getting busier and there was some dancing so we danced a while, getting a bit closer to each other as it was crowded, so that we were touching each other. He put his arms around me and we kissed on the dance floor, and kissed for quite a while. The party at the bar was getting quite raucous and I felt as though no-one noticed or cared what we were doing.
Then he took my hand and led me off the dance floor and out of the bar into a corridor with doors. Outside one of the doors he stopped, pushed me up against the door and we kissed again, more passionately and more urgently and with our bodies pressed together and our hands all over each other. He asked me if I wanted to take things further. I said I did.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? He unlocked the door we were against, and it was an office. He pushed me up against the side of the desk and we were pulling each other’s clothes off frantically. We remained semi-dressed throughout. He kissed my neck and breasts and rubbed my clit while I was holding and stroking his cock. After only a very short while of doing this I was on the verge of an orgasm and he was very hard and he pushed some things off the desk, lay me down on the desk on my back, and lifted my legs up over his shoulders and penetrated me. He fucked me hard and strong and it felt fabulous. He came quickly and when I could feel he was about to come I pressed hard on my clit so I would come too. It was exciting and satisfying.
After we’d both had a few minutes to recover, we got dressed again quickly because he was worried about being caught, tidied up a bit and went back to the bar. I continued talking to him and dancing with him and he was very sweet, still paying me lots of attention and we were laughing and smiling about our secret hookup. I had a reasonably early plane to catch so went to bed shortly after and he kissed me when I left.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? None 🙁 . No discussion. I was on the contraceptive pill.
What were your REASONS for having this hookup? Sexual attraction plus opportunity.
Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? Some alcohol, not a lot. I wasn’t drunk and I don’t think he was either.
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt really happy after the hookup. I felt sexually satisfied and I slept well because of it. It provided a high point for the end of my holiday.
I had no expectations for the future. He was much younger than me and lived in a different country. I expected I would never see him again but I thought he was a lovely guy and I hoped he would live a happy life.
I feel the same about that now.
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told my best friend, who was one of my travelling companions. she was fairly nonplussed that it had happened, she knows me, and I guess she was happy for me that I had had a fun experience.
Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes and yes
Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? No
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Having a spontaneous sexual experience with a sexy young Frenchman was fun and satisfying.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
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