by Dian di
What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 23
What’s your race/ethnicity? Southeast Asian
What continent do you live on? Asia
What country and/or city do you live in? Philippines
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Professor
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 2
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
Partner In Crime
How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 months ago
What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (monogamous)
How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He is tall, dark curly hair, thick lips, Jacob Black look alike and similar builds. I have known my best friend for ten years. He was the first boyfriend of my very close friend years ago in high school. I helped him win my friend’s heart. We are great friends.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? He used to hang around in my apartment after his class. We sleep in bed together, eat together every day and we are like twins. We have a lot in common. We like same genre of music, movies, hobbies, etc. Well he really had feelings for me but I am not really into any relationship. One night while he was drunk, he slept beside me and he kept on telling me he loves me. When he woke up next morning, he acted as if he said nothing. The next day, he came back and laid on my bed. He asked me if I find him attractive and I said yes. I sat beside him and stroked his pet. He liked it. Then I asked him if he wants a friends with benefits relationship with me. He wants more but I told him I cannot do anything beyond that. I only want a fuck buddy and he is the best candidate for that. Then he started kissing me. I took that as yes to the agreement.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? He took off my pants and panties while kissing me. He played with my nipples while I unzipped his pants and stroked his pet. It got harder and then i give him a bj. We were very much excited, we bit and scratched each other. He thrusted deeper and harder and I realized one thing. We had sex and it was better than making love. He lasted for 15 minutes and we both came together.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We are still bestfriends and we just had sex twice until now. I do not want to be his gf as much as he wanted to. Less drama and I may do whatever I want in my life. O still want the friendship however I do not want anything more then that.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have, Boredom, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? A little bit
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Somewhat
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? We made another memory for us and I feel that it’s a secret we would keep for the rest of our lives.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? He gaining deeper feelings for me.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? It’s fun when you are not into a serious relationship, even with your consent and it makes you feel better when you know you can have sex without concerning of your health. I believe my bff doesn’t have std or aids. No risks at all.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Its good. For learning how millenial people think and act.
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