by Gabriela

Gender: female
Age: 23
Race/ethnicity: latina, Chile
Location: Chile
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
Occupation: Student, Artist
Relationship status: Single
Religious affiliation: none
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexual orientation/sexuality better/best? very free to experiment and explore new things to like and pleasure me as well as my partners
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 50
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? none

Party Nerd Hook Up

How long ago did this hookup happen? 3 weeks ago

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? friends-with-benefits/fuck-buddies first time

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I knew him only through some parties, and because we had some friends in common. I’ve already added him to facebook but we didn’t talk in person before that night that we bumped into each other.
We were at a party of our friends and he was doing some visuals. When I was dancing with my friend he came to me I was already very high on weed and I noticed that he was drunk but not the kind of drunk that you hate. He actually said a lot of nice stuff and compliments to me so I felt really good. After the party was over he invited me to his house and I said yes, so we took a cab and when to his house.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We didn’t plan anything, I didn’t even know that he was going to be there at the party and that he’d be so flirtatious with me. The hook up began at his house where he invited me to his bed, we talked for a bit with the lights off. Then we couldn’t stand any longer and started to kiss.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? When we started to kiss, we took our clothes off and started touching each other, he performed oral sex to me and then I did to him. We had vaginal sex only and I came and he did too. He was really soft I remember and he was a gentleman so I guess it felt very good and also because I had and orgasm I felt sexy and very feminine, he was a nerd, but I guess that was fine for me. We talked about how wonderful was that we bumped into each other that night and then we had vaginal sex again in the morning again.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We used two condoms one for the night and one in the morning. Yes we did discuss STI history and was nice to hear that we were very responsible to talk about it and use condoms. I felt he was nice for it like true to himself and to me.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I felt he was too nerd, so I thought that he would never ask for me to join him. So I guess I did seduce him a little for it. And it turned right for me and for him.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? Yes, he was on alcohol and I was on weed. But a reasonable quantity never too much to feel bad or die trying.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We are friends now, we had sex again this week it feels nice and right to share something like that with him. I feel great when I’m with him we laugh a lot, we try to be open and loose. I can see he cares about me, he is older and so I guess more protective. I try to be very affectionate with him and he is with me. I’m a very loving person with my sexual partners I think everyone is looking for some of that at the end. Some love to receive or to give. So when we are together we touch, caress and kiss. I don’t think this could lead to a serious relationship but at least it was very adult and consented. Now I feel he can be a great friend he knows me a little more now, but I don’t think we can become girlfriend and boyfriend.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My girlfriends, they said it was great and very nice for me to find someone like him, such a gentleman. And that I should be with him. lol.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes, for both.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Not at all, I feel great I needed it and he was such a doll, a little nerd, and very caring.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The best things was that we were very flowy about didn’t knowing each other really, and the worst I guess it would be that some how I felt a little weird in the morning because we weren’t on drugs or alcohol anymore and that was a little awkward.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup or anything else? I liked more his personality than his body or him physically. And he knew where to touch me perfectly he was very experienced, maybe the same way as me, we were very equal on experience. The most weird thing is that he didn’t said his age until now he doesnt want me to know. He’s not old or too young. But I just think it’s interesting.

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