Race/ethnicity: german, white
Current location: Germany
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
Relationship status: married
Religious affiliation: raised catholic
How religious are you? Not at all
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 6
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 1
How long ago did this hookup happen? 5ish years
How would you best classify this hookup? One night stand with friend
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I’ve known her for quite a few years, she was a loose friend and had been in relationships with friends of mine. We met often by hanging around in the same scene. I’d had assumed her to be sexually quite active – one relationship with a friend of mine had been an open one, she was very open when talking about sexual stuff etc. I liked her as a friend, still do, but that’s it.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We were at the same bar, staying late, and drinking and talking and somehow decided that she needed to see my place, since I had recently moved in with an old friend of hers. So we walked to my flat, had a glass of schnapps and talked a bit about the place (a shared flat with some history). Finally we went to bed. I think from the moment she (or me?) suggested to go to my place, I thought something was going to happen, but I can’t put my finger on why I thought so. Anyway we were not really flirting or anything before we lay in my bed.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Once in bed, we started kissing and making out (don’t know who started, I think her) – me kissing her all over, my hand in her panties. All the time I had a really full bladder. After a while, I thought this might lead to sex of the penis-in-vagine kind (what I find awful with a full bladder) and excused myself to got to the toilet. When I came back, she was sound asleep and snoring. I thought “oh well” and went to sleep myself.
Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? nope, neither.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? none, but there was no risk since we did not get that far.
What were your REASONS for having this hookup? Horniness, and it seemed like it would be a nice, uncomplicated thing.
Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? We were both drunk.
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? She had to leave early the next morning to get to work, and made up a story to her long-term boyfriend that she had visited my flatmate.
The next time we met she greeted me with “that last time was soooo nice!” and some other time we met (together with a lot of mutual friends) we thought about absconding together (to hit another bar at first) but then I did not feel like it and we left it at that.
We’re not close friends, but still on good terms.
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I mentioned it to a good friend, he asked “why are you telling me this?”. At one time, at a party at my place, we drunkenly drew a graph with all our hookups and sexual partners, I added this one. No one commented but my flatmate – he thought, (Now I think rightly) that she was cheating so I should have kept it mum.
Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? yes, for both.
Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? no.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Best: It was nice and felt natural at the time. Worst: Dunno.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup or anything else? Thinking back, I find it funny how fast I switched from being horny to “oh she’s asleep? I’m tired anyway.”
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