What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 47
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA, Pennsylvania
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Corporate Trainer
Religious affiliation: Extremely spiritual…have studied Eastern philosophies of spirituality
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? open to experimentation strictly for sexual experience/strictly heterosexual in relationship
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 12
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
How long ago did this hookup happen? two weeks ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Group sex
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Oh my…this is where it starts sounding like piece of fiction…or at least never EVER a hook up that I would be involved in. My partners were a man and another woman. It would require a separate piece of writing to fully explain my relationship with the man involved (not my husband). But, over the course of 11 years, we’ve fallen in/out/back in love. HOT! We’ve always had personal & sexual chemical insanity. The woman was someone he had dated many years ago, and with whom he had maintained occasional contact. I had never even met her before the hook up, but assumed she would be good looking. I actually had a lot of resistance to meeting her…and assumed there would be too great a potential for emotion/jealousy to play into what I wanted only to be a purely hot, sexual experience with my guy.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Howard (what I’ll call him here) and I had been talking about our interest in hooking up with a 3rd for awhile. Although, of the two of us, I’m definitely the more sexually shy, I was 100% on board. I knew it would be an “experience” and, the more we discussed, the more I fantasized about it. My caveat to the whole hook up, I told Howard, was that it had to be with a stranger. I didn’t want weirdness creeping into a girlfriend relationship, etc, and I knew I could be more uninhibited knowing I’d never have to see this other person again. Unfortunately, I quickly found out it’s wasn’t easy finding a beautiful, willing woman who wanted to fuck me and my boyfriend!
So, Howard asked if it would be ok to reach out to Sarah (what I’ll call her here). I said no, got a lot crazy for him even making the suggestion, having already explained my reasons for wanting the anonymous 3rd, caused more of a scene than I can admit to. Then, when the dust settled, I said “fuck it”.
Long story, shorter: Howard reached out to Sarah, she wanted (understandably) to meet me. So, we set up what was supposed to be a casual meet & greet in an out of the way parking lot (we couldn’t go to a bar because we are ALL married…it’s too twisted to think about from an outsider’s perspective!!) Howard and I were all nervous energy and excitment the day of our meeting. We had been talking and emailing about how awkward it was going to be without the benefit of a drink/sitting in a car. What are we supposed to talk about? Do we just say something like, “OK, you look good. Wanna get a room next Tuesday?” I mean, who knew what to expect?
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? So, in broad daylight Howard, Sarah, and I meet and get in the back seat of my SUV. It was every bit as weird as we thought it would be, at first. But, much to my surprise, I actually liked Sarah, and felt a peaceful confidence in Howard that he’d be there the way I needed him if we decided to go forward with setting something up. After about 10 minutes of nervous small talk, Howard smiled in this classic shit-eating grin way he has, said, “So, what are we gonna do now?”, and put his arm around the two of us. I responded with, “I think Howard wants his cock sucked”, and Sarah said, “I’m down for whatever”.
For the next 45 minutes, Howard, Sarah, and I had as full-blown a threesome as is possible. In a car. In daylight. Sarah and I had our first girl-girl makeout session (soft and hot), Howard got his cocked licked, sucked, and stroked by both of us at once (together/taking turns/you name it). I LOVE giving him blowjobs, anyway. Love it. So, seeing him so obviously out of his mind turned on by two women doing it, was completely worth the bruised knees I still have. During one come-up-for-air kiss with Howard, he stuck his hand down my pants and we locked eyes. I knew he’d feel how wet my pussy had gotten and I couldn’t wait to see the look on his face. I’ll never forget it. But, space was definitely lacking, so I think we all knew we’d obviously be setting a date to this “for real” in a hotel room, and this was all about getting Howard off and breaking the ice for Sarah and me. Before Howard had enough, Sarah suddenly announced she had to leave because she hadn’t expected “this” and she was really late for something. We said our strange goodbyes as she wiped her mouth and I held Howard’s cock in my hand. Truth be told, though, it was fine by me to finish the job. I had made a pointed effort to not be territorial with Howard and had been avoiding the normal eye contact and intimate dirty talk that we both love. As soon as the door shut, I couldn’t wait to bring it. And, after he came in my mouth, we both looked at each other and knew what the other was already thinking. What the hell kind of surreal, out-of-body stuff just went down here?? We’ll forever talk about it, I’m sure.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? It felt amazing to have had this unbelievably crazy experience, and to be able to share it with Howard. We have a date to do the hotel room thing with drinks and the whole nine yards. So, hopefully, it will be as hot as I’m sure we’re all anticipating. I’m still working out some things that pop up in my head from time to time, given the nature of Howard and Sarah’s previous relationship. But, I’ll either work it out, or not. I’m just trusting and taking things one threesome at a time. So far, so fucking good.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Sterilization, No penetrative sex happened
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave the clear green light, but was still a bit tentative going into it.
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one outside of the three of us.
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The best thing is having this steamy, hot memory with someone I love.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Can’t think of anything!
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It hasn’t changed the way I think about sex…I’m happy that I pushed myself outside of what would normally be my comfort zone.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Looking forward to seeing what happens next.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I absolutely love sex. However, I’ll always (personally) get way more out of sex if I’m emotionally connected to at least one of the people involved in the hook up. Having said that, I judge no one for their choices as long as all involved are safe and consenting.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Keep it up! It’s important to not feel alone when exploring new sexual territory.
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