What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 42
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Scotland
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Recruitment
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 10
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 2
Piss your pants for me
How long ago did this hookup happen? 7 months ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Dating casually
How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a year
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? M has featured in both my stories before. We’d been casually seeing each other for about 7 months by this stage, meeting up for gigs / sex / drinking sessions a couple of times a month. He is super-hot, very tall and skinny, mod / punk style. We’d been getting progressively kinkier and I felt that he was always trying to get me to do something that he just couldn’t quite ask. Neither of us felt we wanted to be in a steady relationship but having said that, I was pretty infatuated with M.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We’d been out at an all-day gig, drinking since 2pm and we were on the bus heading home, top-deck, after midnight. M started talking about a girl he had been seeing who liked to piss her pants and how he found that really hot, he asked if I would do it when we got home and I just laughed. He wasn’t keeping his voice down so people starting listening in. I told him about a boyfriend I’d had who wanted me to piss in his mouth but I never had. He told me he was getting hard thinking about it and shifted in his seat so I could see. I was pretty turned on.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? When we got home, M started kissing me and took me into his kitchen, got me to sit on his breakfast bar, took my pants and tights off and started fingering me. He gave me oral, then while I was lying on my back, had sex with me.
We went back over to the sofa and he started talking asking me to piss my pants. He wanted me to pee on his floor while he filmed, then said he would take me next door, rip my pants off and shove them in my mouth, then shove his cock in too. I was pretty turned on and vaguely horrified at the same time. I told him he was a sick dirty bastard and he told me I was a filthy slut. He told me I was to be a good girl and do what I was told, then took me through to the bedroom.
I sat astride him for a while, rubbing myself on his penis without letting him enter, until I came. He then pulled me to the edge of the bed, got me on all fours, made me put my knickers back on and rubbed my clit through my pants, begging me to piss myself. I felt a weird mix of turned-on-ness and utter shame but in the end I did it … I was unsure he was serious and thought it would serve him right if his bed was covered in pee after embarassing me on the bus! He ripped my knickers off and tied my wrists together behind my back with them. He then wanked off over my back, while still fingering me.
We lay together and chatted for a while about how hot and dirty we’d felt it was, then M got hard again and I went down on him until he came again, this time in my mouth.
In the morning when he woke up, he was still pretty horny but we were both very hungover so I gently wanked him off.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We talked about kinks and M was keen to fulfill any I might have. I was pretty turned on all night and didn’t sleep. We sadly ended our sexual association a few months ago although we are still good friends. We talked about M’s piss kink this week in a pub, then he sent me some filthy texts when I got home.
I miss him sexually although we are still friends. I hope we remain friends and there is still an enormous attraction for me so I would like to think we could have sex again as I have many unfulfilled fantasies still and M is someone I’m not scared to talk to about them.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Intoxication, Submission / Relinquishing power
How intoxicated were you? Completely wasted
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Completely wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Prescription pain killers (Vicodin, Percoset, Demerol, Dilaudid)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? A few friends. Some thought us drinking so much – we would pretty much binge drink every time we were together – would lead to trouble, which it kind of did, others thought the story was priceless.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Mixed (Some positive, some negative)
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Experimenting with someone I trusted. Being made to feel confident and unashamed about my desires.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Just the hangover the next day.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes, I feel more confident in expressing my desires and talking about sex, which is not something I ever felt.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I feel more comfortable having sex with someone within a friendship as long as we both understand that it’s just friendship too. I’m unsure if this has come with age or due to the experiences I had with M. I’d never felt positive about casual experiences before but they were more one-night stands, and I don’t think I would do that again as I need an emotional connection with someone.
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