What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 23
What’s your race/ethnicity? Black
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Canada
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Customer Service Rep
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Very
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? too many to count 30-40
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

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How long ago did this hookup happen? 1 year

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I met David through a friend, he had been dating her but they broke up and we kind of just started hooking up – best hook up ever. This is about the last time we hooked up. It was Christmas time and I was traveling to a different country to start school immediately after the holidays; we had nowhere to hook up because I had family around and so did he. It was not supposed to be a hook up but it just happned.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? It was not a planned hookup. We met at the cinema to watch a movie, which was boring, so we ended up leaving early and just sitting in the car and talking.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We were in the car – I was in the driver’s seat and he was in the passenger’s talking, and our conversation became very sexually charged. He started fingering me and we were kissing; bear in mind this was in a crowded parking lot on a hot summer day with people all around, and the windows of the car were not tinted. I tried to resist but he knew just where to touch to drive me crazy. Then I started grinding on his finger begging for more. I can just remember the evil smile on his face when he asked, “WHAT DO YOU WANT.” I didn’t want to reply because he knew what I; wanted with a straight face I looked at him and then he withdrew his finger and unzipped his pants. He was rock hard and I could not help my self. I stood up and sat on it and just started riding. I had to be careful not too rock the car too much and thereby alerting everyone outside to what was going on. I have to say, though it was totally not a comfortable position (my legs hurt), in the moment it was totally worth it. We finished and he left and I drove home.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I was sad and happy; sad because I may never see him again and happy because it felt amazing. Then, on the way home, I got a flat tire. I don’t know how it happened, and since then we always joke that we had such amazing sex that my tire went flat.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? no one

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? it was a good way to say goodbye

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Nothing. Well, I had a leg cramp and my tire went flat.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? NOPE

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? NO

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I THINK AT THE TIME I WAS REALLY INTO CASUAL SEX. RIGHT NOW I DONT THINK IT WOULD HAPPEN AGAIN. BUT THEN AGAIN I LIKE CASUAL SEX BECAUSE THERE IS NO STRINGS ATTACHED AND NO FEELINGS

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