What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 43
What’s your race/ethnicity? South Asian
What continent do you live on? Asia
What country and/or city do you live in? India
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Human Resources
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Buddhist
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 5
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
How long ago did this hookup happen? 7 Years
What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I met this girl on LinkedIn and she was interesting and quiet intelligent, working for a nonprofit charity. One day I sent her links to one of my poems (which was hot!) and few days later, I sent her text message and she responded. The conversation started becoming hotter through text message that both of us started masturbating at our respective places. This happened few more times again (in all these occasions my wife was either away or sleeping). This girl, I will call her Ana (not the real name) lived in another city and I made a plan to visit her city (Incidentally my office had a branch office in her city) and I started fantasizing about her till then. I felt really nice, thinking about her that time.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I informed her about my trip and we decided to meet. I instigated it and she was game. We could not meet on the planned day but we did meet on the next day.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? As I didn’t have the condoms (and medical stores were closed for some reason), we agreed on oral sex. I ate her pussy and it was something which she didn’t experience earlier. Her hand was on my cock and she was shaking it while I went down on her in my hotel room. As soon as she entered the room, I gave her a nice tight hug and started pressing her boobs and we undressed eventually. I licked her for a long time and all this while both of us were ecstatic (she was shaking my cock as well). She was a fantastic lover. She visited me twice that day and both the times I ate her. She gave me clothes and books as gift and then it ended.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt excited and happy the next day. I hoped for getting hooked up with this person again and again but somehow it didn’t happen. I still remember that time with her.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting, Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more, Thought it was an important experience to have, To feel better about myself, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident, To cheer myself up, Making new friends, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Just one person (she is a friend), years after it happened. She was neutral.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Neutral
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? A poetry lead to it, hence it sounded poetic and intetesting
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Nothing
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Not really. I think casual sex is fun (always thought so)
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? It should be accepted as it’s fun and makes life more enriching
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Great project. Time has come now for people to respond to such questions and forget moral dimensions to it
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