by Mackenzie
Gender: Male
Age: 19
Race/ethnicity: White

Location: Melbourne,  Australia
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
Occupation: Student
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
Sexual orientation: Bisexual


Poetry and Watercolours

How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 months-ish

How would you best classify this hookup? Close friends gettin’ frisky

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She was a girl I knew on an emotional level somewhat well because we got to know each other through sharing poems. I was pretty familiar with her art, but we hadn’t hung out in person often. She’s slim with wild curly hair, incredible blue eyes.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I met her at her place after she’d been out clubbing. I was only up at 3am because I’d been to the hospital with a mate, and her place was on the way home for me. We chatted for a while about art/poetry, then did some water colour painting. She told me that she remembered the first words I ever said to her, over a year ago (an incident that I have no memory of) and we wrote a poem together based around them. We were lying on her bed and I said she had gorgeous eyes and she kissed me, which quickly led to other things.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We just kissed for a while, I believed she was a virgin at this point so I didn’t want to push things any further, but she reached down my pants. We went down on one another and then had sex. I think it’s plainest just to say it was physically unsatisfying for both of us. She was sexy and confident in bed, but the condom somehow tore after only a couple of minutes. We then took turns giving each other oral.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? I wore a condom, and we didn’t discuss previous experiences.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? She and I have oft discussed how we think in very similar ways – we’ve shared poetry a lot and I think on an intellectual/artistic level we both love one another. It just somehow progressed into the physical world, no emotions were really involved, it was her way of showing her appreciation of my art, I suppose. And when two people are young, single and attractive, why not hook up?

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? She was incredibly drunk when I got to her place, but she’d sobered up mostly by the time we had sex. I was completely sober, and had been for a few months at the time.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I left my wallet in her room and had to go get it the next day. We chatted briefly, it was pretty clear neither of us minded/regretted what had happened, we’re still good mates to this day and it didn’t change anything.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told a friend, who seemed pretty disappointed as she knew I was trying to get over another girl at this point.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? She initiated everything. For the most part, I just lay on my back and let it happen. But I wasn’t non-consenting, perhaps just not particularly interested. I had my mind on someone else at the time. We were both content that it had happened after the fact.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Best thing: I feel it’s added another level of friendship with this girl. It was the first time I’d slept with someone I wasn’t dating, so I guess it expanded my ideas about casual sex.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Not at all positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

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