Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
Religious affiliation: None
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Bisexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexual orientation/sexuality better/best? Genderfluid
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
How long ago did this hookup happen? 7 yrs
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night-stand
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was neither short nor tall, sort of athletic looking with short dark hair and green eyes. I thought he was really cute at that time. I had seen him a couple of times before, since he was a friends’ ex-boyfriend. That night I met him at a Spring Break Party that I attended with my friends, but it really sucked. I guess before the hookup I never actually thought about him in any way.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Well, since we both were at that party, we started dancing. It was an odd situation since my best friend also started dancing with his best friend and at one point they started kissing next to us and for some weird reason we felt like we had to catch up, so we started kissing as well. I’m not exactly sure how things went on, but after a little while he told me to get out of this location “to take a walk” and I remember thinking something like “how cheesy is that,” but I went outside with him. Once outside we passed smokers and drunk people and went on to some fields or whatever that was and he started pulling off my shirt at some point and the further we got, the more he undressed me until I ended up naked on some grassy field wearing nothing but my left shoe.
I somehow knew he was going to fuck me as soon as we left the building and I could’ve just left if I wanted to, but I was too damn curious of how this was going to end, so I stayed. I don’t know whether he planned any of that, but I highly doubt it since he didn’t even know I was going to be at that party. Well, at least I think he didn’t. I lost my virginity that night on the field and I remember the ground being really uncomfy and something burning my skin right below my butt cheek, which was probably some weird plant or something.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? It was plain vaginal sex, missionary style. I was sort of passive and I wasn’t really sure what to do with my hands, because obviously I had no experience whatsoever, being a virgin and all, and also I thought the situation to be too damn crazy and funny to stay serious after all. It wasn’t bad, but it wasn’t amazing either. He came after a good ten to fifteen minutes and I didn’t. I was really surprised that it didn’t hurt. We both acted rather indifferent towards each other and we didn’t have much to talk about so we barely talked at all. I don’t want to say he was a bad lover but he didn’t put in much effort and I’m guessing neither did I.
After, he helped me search for my clothes in the the dark and we went back inside. On the way in we crossed paths with my brother and it ended up being a stereotypical “walk of shame” situation. Then, I went to party on with my friends and I suppose so did he. That’s about it.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? He used a condom. We didn’t talk about any of that.
What were your REASONS for having this hookup? Umm.. lust, curiosity, …, hormones maybe?! Not so sure.
Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? We both had a couple of drinks. I most certainly wasn’t drunk and he didn’t seem drunk either.
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I went to the bathroom to check whether I was bleeding or something. They had one of these really cute toilet seats with dolphins and starfish and stuff.
There weren’t any expectations, because it was nothing more than a one-night-stand and we both knew that from the very beginning.
Now that many years passed, I feel a little angry because, you know, I was really young and he was a lot older and technically he was committing a crime and all. But then again I won’t blame him, since I clearly and consciously decided to have sex with him, because I wanted to do so. Still, there’s some “go fucking find someone your age” thoughts crossing my mind many years later.
It’s funny, because I just accidentally ran into him the other day and I couldn’t find him any less attractive, I think.
It’s really been a long, long time.
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told my friends when I rejoined the party. Straight up “I just lost my virginity on a field a few minutes ago with that guy over there” and we all burst into laughter. It felt surreal.
Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? It was consensual on both parts, most definitely.
Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? No, I don’t. I don’t see any reason to regret it.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It’s a good story to tell.
Just kidding, I don’t know. It gave me proof that for me sex can be one thing and love completely another. It didn’t change the way I felt about casual sex. It actually was the very start of a very peculiar casual sex journey.
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
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