What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 68
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Tucson, AZ, USA
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Retired (construction worker)
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Non-practicing bisexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 12
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 1
How long ago did this hookup happen? 20 years
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a month
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She was short and a bit on the heavy side, but well-toned. Short, dark pixie-cut hair and coal black eyes. Quite attractive actually and well-known as a woman that was promiscuous. We had met briefly sometime before at a drunken party, out in the prairie. We were working construction at a power plant out west. At the party, she openly pursued (and screwed) a married guy who was there without his wife. The other women at the party were not amused, including my wife.
I enjoyed this woman’s brazen style and was immediately hot for her.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? My wife went back home (500+ miles away) and soon thereafter I bumped into this woman at a roadhouse type bar. The place was packed with construction workers and bikers, and she was there with a casual boyfriend who was ignoring her to shoot pool with the boys.
She gave me a warm hug as soon as I entered and invited me to their table where we flirted shamelessly throughout the evening. At one point she and another couple went outside to smoke a joint and invited me to join them. She and I were in the backseat, and within minutes we were making out like crazy – she had her hand down my pants – and the other couple went back inside. We steamed the windows up pretty good but didn’t go beyond heavy petting.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? A week later the job ended, and she and I met again at the same bar by coincidence. We danced slowly, and kissed, and soon were on our way back to my dumpy motel in the country.
We were all over each other as soon as the door closed, undressing one another with lots of kissing, licking, and exploring.
I was delighted by her body – a bigger girl as I said, but strong and toned with beautiful tits, and the prettiest sex I’d ever seen. She lay back on the edge of the bed and I ate her for some time; she had that slight ‘barroom’ staleness but was still quite yummy. At some point she sat up on the edge of the bed and sucked me as I stood before her – I was very hard (not always a sure thing) and soon we ended up in a pile on the bed where I slipped easily inside her. She was a wild thing, howling, and bucking as we fucked. We came more or less together, and after a (very) short rest she was sucking me again.
We slipped into the 69 positions and ate each other – by now we were both a sticky mess – before she moved on top of me to screw me again. She was just an incredible lover! She rode me (hard) by squatting over me, with her pussy tightly holding my cock inside of her and her feet flat on the bed…while she played with her tits and pinched her nipples. A lovely combination of strong vaginal muscles and incredible balance! We both had very strong orgasms as she rode me.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We had sex again the next morning, that head-achy hungover type of rutting. It was good but without the intimacy of the night before. She had her own car at the motel, having followed me there from the bar, and she left with a semi-tearful goodbye.
I felt a little guilty, to be sure.
As for the future, there was a chance that we might have had an ongoing affair. But for a number of reasons that didn’t work out. Believe it or not, wife and I are pretty much forever.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Thought it was an important experience to have, To feel more desirable, I was feeling lonely, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high
What substances did you consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish
How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? A few of my construction worker friends, who knew about it anyway. They were not too surprised and mostly laughed it off. One or two wanted to know what she was like. Other than the fact that we had fucked, I revealed no ‘intimate’ secrets.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Somewhat
Do you regret this hookup? A little bit
Why do you regret this hookup? Because I was unfaithful to my wife.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The intense, eager, uninhibited sex.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Sexually speaking, nothing. She was astonishing in bed and brought out the best in me.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Soon after I was working another job across the country, where I decided an STD test was in order.
Results came back fine; HIV, of course, being my biggest concern.
There were rumors that she was going to follow me out east, and that she might start some trouble between my wife and I. There was a brief ‘dust-up’ but things settled down after a month or two.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I truly think that people should be honest with their partners/spouses, above all else. A friend told me that my wife is aware of my fuck up; she’s never confronted me with it and if she did I’d have to tell her the truth. On the other hand, that thing about being a liar by not saying anything is bullshit.
‘Lying by omission’? Bullshit made up by women. Secrets aren’t always a bad thing, nor are love affairs.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Love it.
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