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What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 25
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Vancouver
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (currently pursuing)
What’s your occupation? Bartender
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Hungry
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 17
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None

Prelude to a Threesome

How long ago did this hookup happen? 1 year

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Tanya. She is a prep girl with a little punk in her style and a secret badass. I knew her by reputation but hadn’t met her in person. I’d been shown her social media and found her sexy and intriguing. She’s one of those girls who can wear a dress one day and ripped jean shorts over fish net stockings the next, and it somehow makes sense. Also, she looks great in a bikini.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I had been sleeping with a college friend who I study with occasionally, and he asked if I’d be interested in a threesome with him and Tanya. I’d already heard about her because a female friends-with-benefits of mine had hooked up with Tanya and had some very nice things to say about the experience, so I was immediately down. The guy showed me pictures of Tanya. He and I were talking about setting it up one night when I was working at a cafe, and who walks in but Tanya. She obviously recognized me (he had shown her pictures of me too) and we made giddy eyes at each other while she waited in line, until she sat next to me and asked if it was me. We chatted for a couple hours while we worked, neither of us mentioning that we had been planning to hook up, but both of us obviously excited by it. We worked until the cafe closed and she asked me if I wanted to “continue studying” back at her place, which conveniently was less than 5 min from the cafe.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? She started kissing me in the elevator of her apartment, and as she walked me to her door she kept her hand on my back, which really turned me on. As soon as the door was shut she had me pinned against the wall, kissing my neck while she undid my jeans. She told me she was so glad she got me all to herself and I almost came when she started going down on me right there in her foyer with my back against the wall. She got me till I was right about to come, then led me over to her couch where she let me undress her and we cuddled and made out for about an hour, gradually getting off each other’s clothes and getting to know each other’s bodies. Finally, we made it to her bedroom where we 69’d until I came (quickly). Then I got on top of her and fingered her while we made out and I sucked on her tits until she came, making these soft little sexy moans that were very soft and vulnerable compared to her personality which really turned me on. After cuddling and napping a bit we started making out again, fingering each other until we both came again.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I decided to cab home since I didn’t live far and we had just met, but I was back at her place the next day for more. We kept up a friends-with-benefits relationship and had a couple threesomes with the guy and another threesome with our mutual female friend. Her program ended and she moved back to Toronto, but we still talk and I know when I’m in Toronto next I’ll be seeing her again.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have, Making new friends

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? The guy was surprised we met but turned on obviously, and he was happy we knew each other so well by the time the three of us hooked up. I’ve told a few friends, it’s usually a nice icebreaker story when I meet a girl I like.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Meeting someone who wanted me as much as I wanted her, and having great sex.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Eventually, it ended.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I had only had a few experiences with girls prior and I’ve since embraced my bi side, and pursue/hook up with girls a lot more.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Nope.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I prefer casual sex to anything more emotional right now. I love making someone feel wanted and getting the same feeling from them.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I love it!

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