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What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 18
What’s your race/ethnicity? Mixed / Multiracial
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: High school diploma
What’s your occupation? Highschool student
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Hindu
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 3
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
Prom after party
How long ago did this hookup happen? 3 days ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For 1 to 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He has short brown hair and is about 5’7″. He isn’t the best looking but he is the nicest guy ever and has an amazing personality.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We were at after prom and he told me how he has been wanting to hookup with me for awhile and asked if I was interested. Let me add I was drunk while this all happened. Then we tried to find a room but the only think open was a large closet. So we stepped inside and just started going at it.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We made out and he had me take my top off. Then he fingered me and I gave him a handjob. He wanted me to go down on him but I didn’t want to. Then toward the end he finished on my tits.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat
Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt used and wasn’t really sure what to think of the whole experience. He definitely took advantage while I was drunk and I’ve talked to him since and now he says that he think it should only be a one time thing.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, No penetrative sex happened
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more, Intoxication, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident, To cheer myself up, Submission / Relinquishing power, Everyone else was/is doing it, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My close friends who asked me if it was just a one time thing
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Somewhat
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? A little bit
Why do you regret this hookup? Since I feel like I was used.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The dirty talking.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The fingering.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes, that I want to take things slower in the future. This was the first time we hooked up and I think we went to far.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Nope
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? That not all the blame or shame is put on the girl.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Really interesting
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