What’s your gender? Genderqueer / Nonbinary
How old are you? 18
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: High school diploma
What’s your occupation? Support Care Professional
What’s your current relationship status? Closeted relationship with boyfriend
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Gay/lesbian
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 5
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
Prom Night Fling
How long ago did this hookup happen? 1 yr ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? My partner was fairly new and was a somewhat distant friend of friends. In most aspects, he is extremely charming but somewhat distant. As I got to know him I started to grow a strong feeling he wasn’t straight because he asked me to call him teddy bear. He was 17, around 6 feet tall, with slender muscles, white, and was hairless neck down.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We left the prom about 30 minutes early so he could help me out of my dress outside my car. While helping me out of my dress, he told me he was having gay fantasies and wanted to try with me.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? During the hookup there was oral, and anal sex was attempted but he was way too big for me. There was a lot of neck and body biting and some choking that we both said we wanted. He behaved almost bipolar during sex flipping from extremely dominant and sadistic to fully submissive and masochistic. After we had both orgasmed we got dressed for post-prom and went on as normally with the night as possible. To this day I feel no shame admitting that he is the best sexual partner I’ve ever had.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After the hookup, I learned that he was in a relationship outside of our encounter. The next day I was ecstatic because the sex was amazing. I was hoping we would be able to have more hookups in the future (we did 5 more times and counting). I still enjoy spending time with them sex or no sex.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more, I was feeling lonely
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? People knew about it as soon as I went to post prom as there were multiple giant hickeys on my neck and his as well. They were mostly surprised as nobody knew that my partner would have sex with Bio-male.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Other
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The Intensity
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I was not fully prepared
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I realized I really do have a kinky side….. so that’s cool
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? That my boyfriend of current knew about the fact I had this hookup during our relationship and there is a possible threeway in the future
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think causal sex is a normal part of maturing as a sexual being and great for learning exactly what you do and do not like in sex. I wish there was more of a message towards being safe rather than it being a taboo.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Seems alright
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