What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 25
What’s your race/ethnicity? Black
What continent do you live on? Africa
What country and/or city do you live in? Kenya
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (currently pursuing)
What’s your occupation? Physiotherapy
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Atheist
What’s your sexual orientation? Pansexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Wildling
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 13

Public Sex Fetish

How long ago did this hookup happen? A month ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? E was an average built guy who was younger than me. I noticed right away because he looked like the guys I used to date in freshman year. I liked him though, he was daring and confident. Just my type of guy. E caught me smoking marijuana behind my apartment that night and started teasing me about getting caught. That was how I initially met him. Later on, I went out to a club with my cousins (we were celebrating a birthday) and saw him there again, with his friend this time. Everyone was happy, wild and drunk.Everyone was exchanging dancing partners every now and then. I ended up with E and that dance took longer than expected. He told me he liked how unapologetically bold I was. We talked some more and kissed for about an hour. He wanted to go the nearby club and buy cigarettes, I offered to take him.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it?  I had had sex (with my BF) for the most part of that day so I was quite sure that I wasn’t going to fuck E. We went outside and he told me more stories and I liked his jokes. We got cigarettes and smoked eight sticks together by the roadside.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end?  I was really horny and my vagina was literally drooling by that time. Taxi men stood on the other side of the road watching. I dared E to finger fuck me and he lifted my dress and did it. Our kisses became more intense, he bit my lips and I bit his. For a moment I completely forgot that we were standing in a parking lot by the roadside and that people could see us. I put my hands on his hard cock and told him to fuck me, that my boyfriend was really reserved and wouldn’t do some things with me. He asked if I was sure about doing this and I said yes. He lifted me on top of someone’s car and lifted my dress. I thought that he’d fuck me right away but he didn’t. He first put his tongue on my vagina which was now sore (from all the fucking with my BF) and wet. I enjoyed the oral sex a little too much. I was screaming and moaning in pleasure without a care of who might be watching or the vehicles that passed illuminating my thighs. I came hard from the CJ and thought that he’d stop there but he didn’t. He got his penis out and I played with it for a while, rubbing the tip against my clitoris. He was very well endowed and this got me very horny.I needed him inside me. I think the fact that it was all very public made me even hornier. I’d always had a fetish for public sex but never practiced it. Without a single question, he penetrated me slightly and playfully teased me asking, “When was the last time you were fucked really good?” I said, “Just now when you did me with your tongue. Quit playing and fuck me”. We fucked just the way I had been needing to get fucked for some months. He asked if he could cum inside me and I screamed yes. I was really enjoying the moment. The thought of his cum mixing up with my boyfriend’s in my vagina really turned me on. We made out some more and went back to the club only to find that all my cousins had been out searching for me. I suspected that one of them had seen it all.They asked what we were doing for so long and I simply said, “Smoking and getting fresh air”. E insisted on getting my number before I left and I gave it to him.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt great about the hookup. I later realized that E was best friends with one of my cousins so I saw him plenty of times after that. Sometimes I was horny and wanted to do it again with him but I chose not to because it would hurt my boyfriend. But if I ever feel that horny again I’ll definitely do it. My BF is very conservative sexually and doesn’t fulfill me. I have fucked three other men while we are together. He’s a good man out of bed and he doesn’t have to know. I am too sexual for him.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, Fertility awareness (days counting, temperature)

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting

How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did you consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish

How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I chose not to tell anyone.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I felt gratified afterward

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? It had to be a one-time thing.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I think that life’s too short. If you want to fuck somebody, go for it if they are also into it. Life’s too short for unsatisfying sex.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? It opened me up to what I really needed in a relationship. And it has made me consider open relationships more.

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