What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 23
What’s your race/ethnicity? Mixed / Multiracial
What continent do you live on? Australia
What country and/or city do you live in? Melbourn
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (currently pursuing)
What’s your occupation? Student
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? I think 9
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
How long ago did this hookup happen? This morning
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Tall, fair hair, aquiline nose, rolls his shoulders, pimp walks, always dressed comfy, I think a hoody and trackies. Hooked up loads of times, since just before Easter. I asked him if he’d finished his work. Met at his apartment. He’s my dude.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? He makes fun of the fact I always shower first, I like to be clean and shaved. When I came out of the bathroom he was watching basketball on the couch. I sat next to him talked about how I was stressed. He tried to go down on me I felt nervous and unattractive so kind of pushed away. He told me he wanted to help me relax. I said we needed to drink. He said we should fuck and then get drunk. I thought that sounded like a good idea. It started because I texted him that morning said I was stressed about exams. Not that much planning I knew he’d be home, he went out for dinner I got an uber and was there after he got back. I instigated.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end?
We went into his bedroom. I knelt on his bed and we kissed and I told him to lie back. He said, “me, no you’re stressed out” then he lay me down and undid my jeans. I pulled off my top. He told me to lose the bra too. He took his top off and went down on me. For a long time. Then we had sex in missionary with my legs over his shoulders. Then down low then he rolled me over and we did doggy till we both came. I felt really good during. He never makes me feel bad about myself and I always come with him. He really helped me relax and I found it bonding. We went downstairs and got wine and did some Xanax. He smoked weed and I had a cigarette. We talked about ourselves a lot of things about how our brains worked. Then we had sex again and I blew him then we did missionary. Then I rode him and he entered me from behind and finished like that.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We talked and laughed. He’s really comfortable to be around. Then we slept and in the morning had sex again. The daylight was so different so I was more self-conscious of my own body but liked seeing him come.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more, To feel better about myself, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident, To cheer myself up, I was feeling lonely, Submission / Relinquishing power, I like spending time with him and he is great in bed
How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high
What substances did you consume? Alcohol, Prescription sedatives (Valium, Xanax, Diazepam, Quaaludes, Phenobarbital), Cigarettes
How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish, Prescription sedatives (Valium, Xanax, Diazepam, Quaaludes, Phenobarbital), Tobacco
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My friend, before it happened, she knows I have a lot of sex so she thought it was funny. She doesn’t think he’s hot enough to be with me so she is slightly bewildered too.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Neutral
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The sex and the interaction
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Knowing it isn’t going further. Would be very nice not to have to coordinate!
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? The reason I get hurt a little is that I care about him and we don’t spend enough time developing our relationship
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I love having sex with him. Feels good, is good for you, and it’s given me friends
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Interested to read others
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