What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 23
What’s your race/ethnicity? Black
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? NYC
Highest education received: High school diploma
What’s your occupation? Banker
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Wild
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? A lot
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 1
How long ago did this hookup happen? Two years ago
What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (monogamous)
How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He’s very handsome fit brown skin & Jamaican.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? At a bar. A kiss led it on. He instigated it. I went out with a couple of friends one night and he arrived shortly after. I’ve seen him around being that we hung out with the same people. So as I’m dancing he came and started dancing with me and started touching me and I began getting aroused but didn’t think it would lead to anything. So after that, I had to use the bathroom and he followed me into the bathroom.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? At this point I’m beyond drunk, so as we’re in the bathroom he turns me over and I’m wearing a dress so he tries to put it in. It’s not going in so then he said to follow him and we went in the car and began fucking like rabbits. We ended up taking long so by the time we finished our friends had left the bar so we met up with them and then we headed home. And once we got back to my home, we went on the roof and he gave me more back shots.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I was still in shock that it happened. Even though I was drunk I knew exactly what took place. We remain friends and kept having sex for a few months after that.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it
How intoxicated were you? Completely wasted
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but didn’t give a ‘no’
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Everyone in our circle eventually found out but no one cared lol
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s very interesting
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