This post is sponsored by The T Bar.
What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 37
What’s your race/ethnicity? Indian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? UK
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Architect
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Hindu
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 7
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 1
Raw & Lusty With a Divorcee 2
How long ago did this hookup happen? 6 months ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For 1 to 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? As per my previous story she’s a classic Indian girl, around 5ft 6in, dress size 12 and a 36d bra size. She has a gorgeous bum and great legs which she sometimes likes to show in skirts. A Holly Willoughby type figure. Nice womanly curves.
I’ve known her for 3 years or so and I got to know her when we were both divorcing our spouses at the same time.
We had hooked-up once before as told in my previous story. After that hook-up we met quite a few times over the following few months but nothing intimate happened. We did occasionally talk about it but we were never in the right place at the right time to get it on again. We’ve grown very close as friends and we’ve had the odd cuddle but nothing more.
A few months after the hook-up she went away to Geneva for work for a year. We were in touch very regularly, probably exchanging a load of texts every 2 weeks. I even went out there for a long weekend with a group of mutual friends and met with her twice when she came back to the UK.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Meena came back to live in the UK in March this year (2016). Friends had organised a welcome back evening at a local bar and restaurant on the Saturday night straight after she got back.
Meena came along wearing a floaty white patterned skirt with black tights and a top that looked like a jumper but very figure hugging. I instantly thought I’d like to be getting close to her later that evening as she looked sexy as hell. Nothing happened that evening but we did spend time chatting. We agreed to meet up the following weekend for a long, lazy lunch.
We met the following weekend directly at a pub on the river. It was a little chilly and when I saw Meena and my first thought was she’s going to feel cold dressed like that. She had on another floaty skirt, black this time, and with black tights again. She had another jumper type of top over it and wasn’t wearing a coat.
After about 30 minutes we sat inside as she looked far colder than I was. We must have been at this place for around 4 hours and had gone through 2 bottles of wine plus another large glass of wine each.
The conversation flowed very easily and at times it got a little naughty. We knew we were both still single and I believed her when she admitted the last sexual activity was our hook-up. As the drink flowed she admitted that she did regularly crave intimacy but just had to take care of things herself.. and we even got down to talking about the where, and the how, and what with. She was freely telling me about the three toys she had and the pros and cons of each and that’s when I made a testing move and said that would be intriguing to watch. In return I had to answer her questions. I was having fun!
We eventually left at around 7pm and got into a taxi. She got in first and slid across to sit behind the driver. Once she was in I got in and noticed she’d not made much of an effort to straighten her skirt. It had slid up her legs and was rested just above mid-thigh. I was getting a huge, and mouth watering, eyeful. Maybe she didn’t feel so exposed because it was dark…
Having not been admonished for hinting at watching her user her vibrator and dildo I decided to see whether she was wanting to go any further. I opened Facebook on my phone and just picked a post with a video. I sort of half watched it and then made my move. I said to Meena to watch the video and in order to do that I rested my hand with the phone on her knee. She didn’t move or flinch and just watched the video and as she watched I enjoyed the feeling on her tights on the back of my hand.
I then decided to show another video so selected it but this time put my hand on her leg above the knee. Again, no flinch or movement.
Meena then took the phone from my hand and asked how to make the video bigger and brighter. I moved my hand from her leg and adjusted it while she held it. Once done, I left the phone in her hand… but moved my hand back to the same spot on her leg – but this time with my palm down. My fingers were spread just slightly and two of my fingers were sort of resting on the inner part of her leg.
The video finished and Meena gave me the phone back. When she did this I pretty much knew that she was willing to go further – as she passed me the phone in a way that went across me and meant I’d have to take it with my left hand…. leaving my right hand on her leg.
We stayed like that for a while and then I very gently squeezed her thigh to see for a reaction. She didn’t say anything but did part her legs a tiny bit. It made me wonder whether she was telling me it was ok to slide further up… but we were in a taxi so I was a little unsure. It wasn’t long after that, probably around 5 minutes, that we got to her flat.
The original intention was I would drop her home and then stay in the cab and go home as well. However, when we got to Meena’s she said to come in and we’d order food in.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? When we got inside Meena went in to the kitchen and asked if I wanted some cheese on toast. I accepted and sat in the living room and watched her. Even now it was clear there was tension in the air.
I went and stood in the kitchen and we made small talk but it was obviously a tiny bit strained and there were silent periods. I was watching her grate the cheese and it seemed very half hearted… and the toast wasn’t even on. Every now and again we’d catch each other’s eyes and she would immediately divert away. It was completely different to the last few hours we’d spent together.
Cheese on toast was eventually made and we ate in near silence, both sort of watching the tv. I was sure she felt the tension in the air as well and I was really hoping she felt it was sexual tension. After eating she quickly got up, took my plate and rushed to the kitchen. I didn’t follow her as I thought she just need to get away a little.
She came back in after a while, having washed up, and sat next to me on the sofa. There was some complete rubbish on the tv but both of us were faking watching it. She asked if I wanted to share a blanket and then got up to get it. On sitting back down she spread the blanket over us and nestled into me.
I wasn’t 100% sure of what she was wanting to do but after about 10 minutes I moved motioned to move us around a bit. If this was accepted then I knew it was game on. I moved her so she was at a slight angle with her back against my shoulder and chest, and my arm cuddling her round her rib cage and stomach. I knew now she was looking for something.
We stayed like this for a bit and I then started lightly rubbing her stomach. Slowly, I then moved to gently caressing her sides. The way she was sat meant there was bare skin between the bottom of her jumper and the top of the skirt and as I touched this area she flinched very slightly. Meena was, at the same time, stroking my thighs and getting into it.
We were now both getting more and more restless and my hand was traveling upwards. I was often grazing the underwire of her bra and her hands were getting nearer and nearer to my crotch. I then made a bolder move and let my hand go under her jumper as it traveled up to her bra.
As soon as I did this she slowly stood up, faced me and then sat back on my lap facing me with her legs either side of mine. We looked at each other in the eyes and then went into a very deep, urgent, lusty kiss.
Meena was now wanton. She was rubbing my face, running her hands through my hair and rubbing my chest. She started undoing my shirt buttons and as she did I ran my hands up the back of her jumper and unhooked her bra. We kissed and rubbed for a few more minutes and then she stood up and took my hand.
I followed her to the bedroom and sat on the bed. She stood in front of me and we picked up where we were at. I ran my hands back up the back of her jumper but slowly bought them round to the front and lifted her bra off her – without touching her breasts. As soon as I did that she just took off her jumper and bra.
We got back to kissing and I now started touching her legs and squeezing her thighs. I was rock hard and desperate and ran both hands up the back of her legs and squeezed her butt. It felt very firm but that was down to her wearing tights.
She told me to stand and she made very quick work of removing my shirt and then proceeded to my belt and fly. Once my flies were undone I reached around her, put my hands back up under her skirt, found the top of her tights and started to pull them down. She shifted around a bit to help me and I managed to get them, and her knickers, off in one go. I then dropped my jeans and stepped out of them – and then she yanked my boxers down and laughed at the same time as I was completely hard.
We then both lay on the bed and hands were everywhere. The first time she put her hand around my shaft I felt like I would explode. I let her carry on for a few minutes while I played with her breasts and then shifted position so I could start playing down below.
The moment I touched her between her legs she cried out. She was very hot and very wet. I told her to lat flat and I then kissed her breasts while I had one hand stroking her vagina. She was so wet that I put a finger to her entrance and looked at her. She got her hand on top of mine and motioned for me to put it in.
I fingered her for a few minutes and then kissed my way down. I asked if she minded and she said to go ahead. I moved between her legs and pushed her skirt right up and as soon as my tongue started working on her she was moaning and wriggling. After a while she started rubbing herself whilst I licked her and she was building up to one. I pushed her hand away and inserted two fingers and then carried on eating her. After a few minutes she had a big orgasm and it took her a couple of minutes to lie still again.
While we were just lying there after her orgasm she was playing with my, still hard, member. I was thinking of asking her if she wanted to return the oral favour but I decided to let her offer it. As she was already wanking me I let her continue like that and then told her that if she carried on like that I’d explode. She speeded it up and within a minute I erupted. I covered her hand and she laughed when she saw.
We didn’t lay around much at all. We had to clean up so we got up and went to the bathroom. I cleaned myself up and washed down and Meena did herself as well. After cleaning Meena went back into the bedroom and when I got in I saw her under her duvet. She pulled the duvet aside and said to hop in.
We stayed in bed and kissed and cuddled and chatted for about an hour. Eventually I said I had better leave but Meena said I could stay the night. I insisted I should go as I had a tradesman coming round the next day. She said it was a shame as we could have gone for round two. I was tempted just to see if I’d get some head and whether I’d be able to watch her and her toys.
Anyway, I decided to go home and Meena got out of bed. I now saw her butt for the first time and I whistled. She turned round, laughed and said I might be able to get more acquainted with it another time. That REALLY got me thinking…
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I went home and messaged Meena as I got in to ask if she was ok. She said she was absolutely fine and reiterated that I should have stayed. This made me feel better about leaving.
We didn’t meet for a few weeks but did exchange messages regularly just as good friends – and didn’t reference the hook-up. We did eventually meet for another long lunch on a weekend and we chatted for a long time.
We chatted about lots of things – mostly physical and intimate topics. We discussed our hook-up, our likes, our dislikes, our sexual histories since divorcing and… contraception.
We also discussed where we go from here, if anywhere. The feeling from both was that we weren’t going to date each other as we weren’t each other’s long-term-let’s-marry type, but we’d just see each other on occasion and keep it casual. It was odd that we recognised we were not dates for each other but there was a sexual energy/chemistry and we were happy to get physical pleasure from each other.
I think we both knew that were were each other’s physical stimulation – not fuck buddies but somewhere in between that and dating.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more
How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Nobody
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The sex! And sex with someone who I want to give pleasure to and take pleasure from.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Can’t think of anything.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Nope. I’m still not into casual sex. I have to know the person and like them before I engage in any sexual activity with them.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? No.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? If it’s what you want then fine – go for it. There is nothing wrong with it between 2 consenting adults. Life is too short to be offended by casual sex or to judge people who have casual sex.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Very good. Interesting to read other people’s experiences.
You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!