Current location: London, UK
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
Relationship status: Divorced
Religious affiliation: Hindu
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 6
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
Raw & Lusty With a Divorceé
How long ago did this hookup happen? 5 days
How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? Friend With Benefits
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I’ll call her Meena – which is obviously not her real name. She’s a classic Indian girl in that she does not have a waif-like figure. I guess she is 5ft 6in, dress size 12 and a 36d bra size. For the Brits here.. think Holly Willoughby and that is pretty much the figure Meena has… which is properly feminine.
I have known Meena just over 2 years – we were both around half way through divorcing our then partners at the same time and met when going out with mutual friends. We did talk often on the phone telling each other what the latest was with our divorces and offering advice. We also met regularly with friends once a month, sometimes more.
Even after 2 years there was no mutual attraction from either side to start a proper relationship but, not having been out with a female for a while, I did wonder and was drawn, on occasion to having a sneaky look at her figure when I thought I was able to get away with it. She had really nice legs that she would show off with an above-the-knee skirt – and I’d get a thighful eyeful when she sat down – and a shapely bottom
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? A whole bunch of us went out on New Years Eve to a local bar/restaurant. We eventually left the bar at 3am and I dropped Meena home. We got to her flat and she was a little more than tipsy and asked me in for a drink but I declined as I was too tired but we agreed to meet for lunch the next day.
We met up at a pub that was midway between us at midday. We chatted a lot and drank a bit and eventually left there at just before 6pm. During our, at times quite serious, chat it came out that we both missed physical intimacy and companionship but neither of us were ready or willing to enter into a committed relationship.
We got a cab with the intention of dropping Meena first and then me going back to my place. As we got to Meena’s she suggested having a pizza at hers so that’s what we did. We were both a little tipsy and when inside, over the course of the next hour, it was obvious there was tension – of the physical kind.
Meena was sitting on a sofa opposite me and a lot of thigh was showing as her skirt had ridden up as she was sitting. She was looking through her pizza leaflets and asked what I wanted. I went over and squatted to look at the leaflets beside her. I couldn’t help myself and looked at her legs as I looked at the leaflets and with each glance I looked further up. On my last look I must have lingered for too long trying to see further up her skirt and I was busted! As I was trying to have a look Meena said “Oi, pizza menus are here not up there”. I looked up at her and she was looking directly at me. I detected a look on her face and decided that I was going to chance it.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? After a 2/3 second pause of just looking at each other I moved in to kiss her. We were still looking at each other as I paused a centimetre from her lips. She didn’t move at all so I carried on and kissed her full on the lips for 5/6 seconds and she responded
I broke off and backed off a few inches and looked at her again. The look in her eyes told me everything was ok and she wanted this as well so I went back in. This time we kissed much more urgently – almost raw and desperate.
After a couple of minutes of this she began sliding off the sofa and sat down on the floor next to me. We were still kissing like a couple of teenagers but hands were beginning to wander.
I broke off again and looked at her waiting for the go ahead which she gave by unbuttoning my shirt. This was now my confirmation and I moved a hand to her thigh. Her skirt had ridden up a lot now and most of her legs were visible. I looked down at them and her knickers were on show. I moved my hand to her top and unbuttoned it and then unbuttoned the clasp on the front of her bra and moved it aside. I looked into her eyes and slowly cupped her breast. She let out a moan and then took a deep breath as I squeezed.
We kissed hard again and she now had a hand on my crotch and was working the belt and buttons. I shifted a little and she then freed me. I was now fully erect and was never going to last. I broke off the kiss and she then wanked me off a bit as I moved my hand back to her thighs. I looked at Meena and she helped by opening her legs enough for me to use a finger to rub her vagina over her knickers.
As I did this she let out another moan so I pressed harder. I then had a finger just under her gusset and looked at her and asked if it was ok. She nodded so I pushed my finger under her gusset and got it just into her vaginal entrance when she then let out a deep, guttaural, moan. By now I was rushing to get to the ‘end’ and pushed my finger deep into her. I kept it there for a few seconds and then started to push it in and out.
Meena was now breathing very heavily and had her head back so I then put a second finger in – which went in easily enough due to her wetness – but was uncomfortable for me. I withdrew and pulled the side of her knickers. She got the message and lifted enough for me to slide her knickers down to her ankles before we got back to where we were. I fingered her for a few more minutes and then she came hard. I left my fingers in her for a couple of minutes and then pulled them out.
Meena then shifted positions, sat cross-legged facing me and said “your turn”. She took my willy and started wanking me. I lasted all of a minute and let go.
Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? Yes, we both did. What was nice to hear was Meena telling me that she had needed that. Judging by the lack of control on my part it was obvious I did too.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? No precautions taken. We didn’t engage in any activity that would have required them – which was good in a way as I don’t carry condoms. It was completely unplanned and we had never discussed, at any time, anything to do with STI’s. Not sure what would have happened if activities had moved on further as I knew she was not on the pill.
What were your REASONS for having this hookup? No specific reason. It’s not as if I was actively seeking it – but part of me thinks that both of us thought that each other would be up for a little fun and, possibly, Meena was trying to engineer something. Then again, that could be wishful thinking.
Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? Alcohol, yes. Meena had drunk 3 large glasses of wine and I’d had 3 beers. No drugs at all – neither of us are users.
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After we cleaned up Meena ordered pizzas and went for a shower. She came back out wearing a sweater/jumper dress and then sat on the sofa – me at one end and Meena at the other but both facing each other.
We made small talk and it was a tiny bit awkward. It was Meena who then said “what just happened there?”.
We then discussed it, what our feelings were, why it happened, how would it change things. Neither of us were looking for a partner. That was clear from earlier and we both reiterated it. It just happened because we both felt comfortable with each other, we could both relate to each other, we both knew a lot about each other and.. we both needed some physical intimacy.
We’d finished eating and at around 10pm I decided to leave. Meena showed me to the door and hugged me. It was immediately obvious to me she was braless and that started a stirring in the loins. I hugged her back and as I did so I rested a hand on her bottom and gently squeezed. She was also knickerless and that got me to full attention. Meena noticed it and laughed. She said it it was a fun night and we should do it again sometime but I had to go as I had a taxi waiting outside.
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? We both agreed we would not discuss it with anyone.
Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? 100% consensual on both sides. We discussed it afterwards and she openly said she was glad it happened.
Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? No, neither of us have any regrets at all.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Best thing about this was the physical intimacy – being able to touch and be touched with the mutual aim of getting, and giving, pleasure.
The meeting hasn’t changed my perception of anything at all. I knew that I was not into one night stands as I need to feel some connection and have some understanding of/with the person in order to have the motivation to concentrate on giving her pleasure. That’s another thing that made this a good meeting.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup or anything else? We have discussed the event again over the weekend just gone and we’ve sort of agreed, I think, that we’re ok to have an occasional physical thing but it should not stop us from dating. Seems like we’re there for each other as friends with benefits which we both believe is more that a booty-call or a fuck-buddy.
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