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What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 30
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Finland, Helsinki
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Currently unemployed
What’s your current relationship status? Polyamorous
Religious affiliation: Buddhist
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Unsure / Questioning
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? I really don’t count
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 1
Recently Divorced Man
How long ago did this hookup happen? Day before yesterday
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a year
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He is a recently divorced young father. We met at my 30-year birthday party orgy and had delightful sex.
After six months he started talking to me again, asking if I wanted to come to his place for a sleep-over, adding that there is no pressure to have sex. I really like it when there is no pressure – and was instantly turned on. This lean, long-haired, a little bit hippy guy has some life experience.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We decided to go to an art exhibition. It was a lovely summer day, and the exhibition was fun with tactile elements. We went to eat sushi (so tasty!), and to his place where we talked for a while, played his guitar and checked what the 3D printer had printed. I changed to a home dress, which was soon to be undressed.
From the hugs and kisses we exchanged during the day I knew how sex would be, and I was not disappointed. He is a sensual lover, he can make fast moves, then take it slow, catch his breath with me. Sex was like jamming, like riding waves. We were hanging on his bed, playing with his things, then we started to play with each others minds and bodies.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I don’t really remember how I got rid of my home dress. I remember I was on top of him taking of his shirt and pressing his hands down and dry-grinding him, as I recalled he liked a strong woman. He gave my cunt a thorough kissing, and I tasted his cock, pulled his balls a bit, let my tongue move itself on him. We complimented each other, kissed, we were really trying to make it last for a while, savouring each moment.
Alas, the excitement to have him completely was too much to bear. I went to get a condom. I asked if he prefers a different size, I have only the usual kind. He said they are fine. His cock… Oh, it was just the right way curvy, so that it almost touches his belly when it is hard. I once had a boyfriend with a cock like that, and the sex had been wonderful with him.
When I had rolled the condom on my friend and tried to embrace him with my cunt, he moved away. He was teasing me! I had to hold his hands down to succeed, and still, when I had just the head of his cock inside, he moved away again. Ah! That made me insane from lust. However, I knew: as I could not resist him when we’d get it on, he could not resist me.
I got two orgasms on top, rubbing my clit while enjoying the feeling of his cock inside. I teased him with words and praised the way he filled me. My juices were overflowing, I had had some dryness issues, and this confirmed that once I meet a skillful lover, it is not a problem. When I felt tired, he turned me over and over once more, finishing when I was laying down on my stomach. His last sighs of pleasure were music to my ears. He had been so vocally expressive and intelligent through our whole session.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? As we cuddled, sweaty and happy, I remembered how important and enjoyable this fourth stage of sexual response cycle is. A little bit of talking, a little bit of kissing and caressing, sleepiness creeping in.
We went to have a quick shover, drink some water and eat some ice cream. There was an animated feature on, which looked absolutely beautiful to me. The ice cream was so delicious too. He talked about wanting to have a wife with magic hair. I asked what the hair would do. He remained silent. It was like I was having a trip or a five course meal.
The next day I gave him a massage, we ate some porridge for breakfast and I left so he could enjoy his projects before his child would return from mother’s care.
Though our chemistry was great sexually, in other ways it was not as good, our personalities had troublesome differences (I found him selfish at times). I think I’m off to other adventures, but never say never! Also, since the poly world is small, fucking this guy is like fucking a brother. It dawned on me that a person whom I consider a sister was the girlfriend of his ex. I also have the feeling that the young father still has some healing to do after his divorce to become more fun to be around.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, IUD (Intrauterine device)
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Thought it was an important experience to have, Making new friends, Boredom, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My beloved. He had met this guy at the orgy. He was nonchalant, it is no big deal to him. I Skyped with my beloved and we were thinking about the fun things _we_ would do when we’d meet in a month!
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Neutral
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The sex.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The divorce.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? This reminded me that casual sex can, every once in a while, be absolutely fantastic.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Less judgement, more happiness!
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Thank you, this works as erotica too 😀
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