by ChloeMae

Gender: F
Age: 29
Race/ethnicity: Irish/Italian
Current location: Japan
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
Relationship status: Married
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Bisexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexual orientation/sexuality better/best? Equal opportunity
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 8
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

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How long ago did this hookup happen? 3.5 years

How would you best classify this hookup? One night stand, friends with benefits, booty call

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? We have been friends since high school. He is about my height, average weight, Irish/Chinese. I’ve always felt comfortable talking freely with him, but there’s never been romantic feelings.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We were talking the night before online. He was drinking and we were both talking about how we haven’t gotten any lately. For me, it had been almost a year. I mentioned that, as I was moving to Japan in less than a month, I was going to go in all sexually frustrated and probably jump the first guy who gave me the time of day. 

He joked about me coming over and we’d have sex and I said okay. After a bit of taking the hypothetical further, he realized I was seriously up for it and we agreed on me coming over the next day as it was already quite late and I didn’t exactly live close.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? It was pretty good, but took a bit to get started. After having promised he’d have me naked almost as soon as I was through the door, instead he was exhausted and said he needed a nap first. I was cool with that, so I just sat on his couch and read for about an hour. After I came back in from a bathroom break, he came up from behind and started kissing my neck. 

We didn’t do anything kinky, rather vanilla, but it was quite nice. Lots of deep kissing (which I personally like better than sex itself). He was confident, so there was no awkward fumbling. His pace was just right, never made me feel self-conscious about my body, and overall one of the best hookups I’ve had. 

That said, he came, I didn’t (but, I’ve only come a handful of times in my life). After, we relaxed for about an hour or so and then I went home.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? Condoms. We both knew we were clean.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? To kind of set my sexual frustration level down to low before moving?

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? No.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We haven’t hooked up since, as I moved and have since married. He and I still talk online as we did before.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes, as we had discussed it beforehand, there was no doubt.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Not at all.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It was great to just do what I wanted without any stigma. I think I would’ve hooked up more in my single years had there been more opportunities like this without slut shaming.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

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